Anyone who is attracted to very inteligent individuals or stong personalities knows what his means.
I only experienced it twice:
1) With my ex who was a doctor in 2003, when literraly, whatever 'inteligent / scientific' he said to me, it would turn me on and even make me orgasm. It didn't have to be of a sexual nature. Our sexual life was, however, a bit more bland than our 'intelligent conversation orgasms' since his penis was not that charismatic.
2) With a man I had met on a 'dating' site, who was such a geek and had such a talent in speech and wordplay to the point he would make me extremely randy. He was a dynamite in bed too.
Any experience in this?
I didn't know that my condition had an actual name, thanks. Yes, it looks like I am one. It's like playing with fire.
My wife works in a university, intelligence doesnt even guaratee an ability to tie shoe laces. I must admit I find intellegent well spoken women very attractive.
I think intelligence is a very sexy trait.. but not something that can appeal to me alone.
My OH is very smart and intelligent and it's one of his appeals but once he talks about anything mathematical my brain switches off. >.<
gunther wrote:
My wife works in a university, intelligence doesnt even guaratee an ability to tie shoe laces.
As someone who also works in a university, I couldn't agree more!
Of course this is not a rule. I have been with intelligent people who were ever so boring. I think that the whole idea of a very educated man turns me on, but this is because I love men of power / succesful men, and the like.
mrsorgasmatron wrote:
Of course this is not a rule. I have been with intelligent people who were ever so boring. I think that the whole idea of a very educated man turns me on, but this is because I love men of power / succesful men, and the like.
same for me, one project manager was so in command she was almost intimidating
I'm a sapiosexual, all my lovers are exceptionally bright in specialist areas, one's an excellent sociologist and writer, one's a great artist, one's a historian, one's great at maths as well as sports and uses his maths skills to help him play sports, one is a designer, one is a song writer. Then there's my OH, who is just brainy at lots of things, it's kinda worrying how brainy he his at times o_0.
If I'm honest, they are brighter than me... I must expand my intelligence!
My wifes intelligence is completely different to mine. I work in the oil engineering industry, my mind has always been mathematical methodical and practical i.e. stereotypical male. My wife on the other hand while having a career in finance is empathetic impractical romantic and full of insight. I believe intelligence is a misnomer but then I am male. The bar maid in my local bar wouldnt pass any university degree but she can size someone up and express it in a heartbeat, maybe that is the "intelligence" men go for? My wife cant read engineering drawings but can read me like a book.
Oh yes any potential partner or sexual partner has to be intelligent in order for me to be attracted to them. I'm a bright individual myself, so I need intellectual stimulation. I think being of a similar intelligence level is just part of forming a successful bond, as are many other factors (similar physical attractiveness, values, goals, interests, sense of humour etc).
I'm afraid I've met a couple of pretty-faced guys (my "type"-physically speaking-and hard to find it seems!), who, upon opening their mouths revealed that they didn't have a whole lot going on upstairs. Suddenly my attraction to them rapidly diminished! You just need interesting things to talk about. But that's certainly not the only factor that would have that affect. It very much depends on the person they are as well. In terms of whether they seem like a "good person" to me (laregly dependant on whether our principles/ethics/morals gel). I have to be able to respect them. If I don't, then it's just not happening! Mutual respect and trust is very important.
So while intelligence is indeed necessary for me in attraction, it's just one requirement on a list! lol. But I think that's the case for everyone! You don't choose a partner because of just one thing, it's everything that makes them the person they are that's attractive to you.
yummybunny wrote:
I'm afraid I've met a couple of pretty-faced guys (my "type"-physically speaking-and hard to find it seems!), who, upon opening their mouths revealed that they didn't have a whole lot going on upstairs.
That made me laugh like a drain, its the same for men (well this man) too. I can talk all night with a physically unattractive women but if theres nothing "upstairs" the convo hardly gets past "how are you"
my OH is intelligent, where i am only clever at things i find interesting. he can go on for hours about almost anything! i always joke about, "if i ask about such and such ill get a 10 hour lecture" xx