thank you all for the input. as for the last question no i am pretty sure my wife has never played out this fantasy of domination. that is why i wanted to let her give it a go because nobody else has done it with her. i know what you mean however yes she is new but no newer than i am. i have never done this domination stuff and ultimately thought it was a bit off of my taste but since i have been reading up on it i now have a much more open mind to the idea. and i realize that it can be fun and mild rather than some hardcore session of whipping or something lol. anyways in a couple of weeks i am going to surprise her with a few things to get her started.