Apologies if it's tmi or breaks the rules but the title really says it all.
My wife and I are trying to get our sex life back on track. We have tried penetrative sex on only 3 occasions I can remember in the last 12 months. We made no progress as my wife was too dry (no lube in stock) and I am not one to force myself on her. Not a chance.
My wife has seen the Dr in the last 5 months and been prescribed a form of hrt that is inserted. This has has some impact but not enough.
We tried to have a good old night of passion last weekend but failed owing to dryness and tightness. Despite copious amounts of Durex Play which seemed to absorbed I could only just insert one finger never mind anything else. We left it at that.
Neither of us have any experience of sex toys other that basic lube.
How do we "refresh the witness's memory" shall we say? We are both gagging for it and my wife was in tears on Saturday saying she wasn't a proper woman as she couldn't get wet enough or open enough for penetrative sex. My wife in tears is distressing for me also.
I did suggest we had a trip to the opposition's local branch shop but she handily slept in till lunchtime and the chance to slip in and out unoticed passed us by.
There is no pressure from me at all. We are a loving hugging handholding couple who just want to be intimate again. We are both 50 and my wife had a full hysterectomy 8 years ago and until recently was ot on HRT.
How do we get things physically opened up? Is it just a case of patience and bit by bit?