Long time lurker here, I thought I would post as I could not find the answers.
I have been in a relationship for over a year with a great guy who I love very much. Although this being said, I have never met any of his friends. This didn't bother me until my friends commented how he has met them and been out quite frequently with them but I have never met any of his.
should I be worried about this?
Thanks everyone :D
Hiya and welcome,
It really depends to be honest
Have you asked to meet his friends and he's said no, or have you just not asked? - He might think you're not interesting in meeting them.....
I wouldn't be worrying about it unless you ask him and he constantly fobs you off. Even then I wouldnt start to worry, he might be protecting you from them (if he thinks they're idiots for example lol) x
Sage words from LK :)
And welcome Shygirl
i wouldn't worry over this. there might be plenty of reasons you haven't met his mates.
if you feel unhappy i would discuss it in a non confrontational way with him.
I wouldn't be worried. I've never met any of my OH's friends. Having said that, neither of are the type to have a large circle of friends, so it's never been a big thing.
I have never asked. I have made comments about them getting drunk with my friends and I. I am not bothered but sometimes think it may mean he doesn't take our relationship seriously.
Welcome Shy. I agree with the others. I haven't met any of my OH's friends and hes met quite a few of mine, I don't really think about it to be honest *starts to think* lol....
OH has met mine but that is purely down to the fact we tend to stay at my flat and my friends live close to me.
Just because you haven't met his friends doesn't mean they don't know about you or that he isn't taking the relationship seriously. One problem may be the awkwardness of having one girl amongst a few guys. If a few of his friends are with girls then maybe suggest a couple night out or a dinner party? See what happens from there :)
shygirl83 wrote:
I have never asked. I have made comments about them getting drunk with my friends and I. I am not bothered but sometimes think it may mean he doesn't take our relationship seriously.
Perhaps the situation has never come up. If he was against you meeting his friends i.e. a situation arose where he avoided you meeting his friends, then there might be cause for worry. I know with my OH, his friends just don't do the kind of stuff/go the kind of places where our paths would cross or they'd be interested in coming along.
As you said about getting drunk with his friends, it may be that his friends aren't big drinkers or frequent different pubs and clubs to the ones you'd tend to go to.
I wouldn't read too much into the issue. If he didnt take the relationship seriously, I dont think you'd have been together for so long without this being the only issue.
good point ecksvie.... honestly don't fuss too much about it.
i know this may sound like a silly question... but are you sure that he HAS friends??
i mean, i have a lot of acquaintances on facebook, but not that many friends that i'd regularly socialise with... y'know??
nifty that just made me lol for real!!! lol....
shygirl83 wrote:
I have never asked. I have made comments about them getting drunk with my friends and I. I am not bothered but sometimes think it may mean he doesn't take our relationship seriously.
I don't necessarily agree.
I've noticed a difference between many of the women and men I know. For example my OH is always asking questions about my friends and how they are but I don't think I really do the same. It's not a case of not caring but I just assume if there is anything interesting to know she'll tell me. In my experience men seem to care a bit less about chit chat and general relations. As your friends may ask questions about your partner perhaps his don't ask about you, not in a bad way but just how they are, if they're like many of the fellas I know.
I sometimes regret introducing my friends to my other half as they took the sentance "I dont know what her sense of humor is like so leave all the bad taste comments at home" as an invitation to break out the dead baby and beastiality joke books
Thankfully she now gives as good as she gets but the first few times she met them she was shell shocked