Any advise my partner has had no desire now for about 3 years I was able to pressure him into it once last year but as it'd been so long and he's big it hurt so I was unable to persuade him to try again. Although I know he loves me there isn't much in the way of affection outside of the bedroom either we have fought a good few times about the fact that he recoils from my touch.
I know that I'm still attractive as I have friends who'll flirt with me but I'm getting to the stage were I'm not even sure I want to continue with this as the only form of pleasure I get is with toys in the spare room (which happens to be my bedroom we don't even sleep in the same bed). If I climb into the same bed as him at night he'll get up after a couple of hours and claim he's too hot.
I can't see a way round this as I really do love him but don't feel I get it in return. My other problem is that I'm from a different country from him and we moved to his country I'd not be able to move home and still see my child because of the different laws to keep her I'd be stuck in a country I don't want to be in. I've been trying to get him to move back home with me for years and one minute he's all for it the next he's not.
I just want things to go back to how they were before we moved down here and his desire for me to return.
Any advise or help would be greatly appreciated and this has gotten to the stage of desperately upsetting for me.