Partners masturbating, do you know how often?

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My wife started a new job last year and travels for work some weeks (as I do) where she may stay out a night or 2. It is often quite boring being in hotels alone and I recently asked her what she did to fill the time.

Her response, with a little smile, was that her routine was usually ‘gym, dinner, watch TV in the room and masturbate’. I know she does anyway but I was very interested to find out more about last part and pried further, where she confirmed that yes, as she has the time to kill and privacy, she likes to masturbate and edge herself for a while. This turned me on massively and I requested she let me know anytime she has done this!

Any others know if their partner masturbates?

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I think most females know their partners masturbate - the less talked about part, is that us women do aswell. I might be different from others but its most days for me.

Furthermore, how about when she does it she could let you know. Mutual masturbating apart but at the same time. You could also involve messaging each other. Just an idea for you :blush:

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My wife really only masturbates when we’re apart overnight, but she’s definitely a down to business, knock out an orgasm or two to help fall asleep, and turn the lights out. We’re every day sexers, but she’s usually more of an every other day left to her own devices. Otherwise, when we’re home together, it’s almost exclusively sex, though occasionally if I have a late night out she’ll do it to try and fall asleep and inevitably she wakes when I come in and we’ll have sex and she’s still warm and gooey.

I try not masturbate except when we’re apart, too, as I don’t want to risk spoiling my erection at bedtime. She knows that when we’re apart I’m an every day guy.

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I’ve never really discussed specifics with her, but I know she keeps toys close by for when she wakes up horny in the middle of the night and she can’t encourage me to wake up to partake lol

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Sometimes she tells me, sometimes when I’m at work she will send a pic of a dildo inserted inside her or a video of herself rubbing her clit. Other times that’s her business. Definitely hot and a big turn on knowing she’s masturbating and having fun :hot_face:

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To be fair the wife and I don’t really do it as we don’t work away and also don’t really spend nights away from each other. When we do play she will play with her self as I play with her boobs. But I don’t really wank as we play together pretty regularly but then if she isn’t up for playing or can’t due to the time of the month she enjoys giving me really oily wanks.

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We definitely know each other does. How often? We don’t phone it in each time. Sometimes though! If we’re away from each other, it picks up, unless we’re off playing on our own. Then it might be one of us getting to it while we hear about it afterwards…. so… yes we know each other does, and we love that we do, but we don’t keep tabs if that’s what we’re getting at :wink:

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Me and the missus usually facetime in the week if we’re both free we often cum together, since I’ve been dating her I’ve hardly searched PH

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My wife is struggling the the big meno. Which as you know is not great in all aspects of life especially sex. So when we have our sexy time. I encourage her to master with her LH rose and see how many times she can cum , she deserves to enjoy orgasms when she can. My sex drive is obviously way higher at the moment. So when I need to cum. I’ll say. I need to cum. You can either cum with me , watch me or help me. I jerk off to our home made videos which she’s more than happy with :fire::fire::fire:about 3-5 times a week

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Reckon it’s a very common thing for most couples to do this and healthy too as we all need to enjoy some of that alone time pleasure!

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It’s no secret between us and we have talked about it plenty of times since we have been together and it is nice knowing what each other does.

Once we had been together a while and she knew it was a turn on for me, she revealed when she had started to masturbate and that it was a regular thing for her and usually 3-5 times a week. We’ve moved in, got married and I’ve asked her at various points and she always said that she still likes to masturbate on her own and it makes her feel good. I don’t know exactly when but she says she does it when I’m not around and it doesn’t take her very long :rofl: I love to know anytime she has been wanking herself.

I’ve gone through phases but I did it a lot when I was younger. I’m mid 30’s and for the last few years stopped masturbating really and wait until we are together. As long as I can cum 2-3 times a week I can usually go 4-5 days without a wank now if I really try and wait. She loves knowing I have waited to cum.

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I honestly don’t know to be honest - I really do hope so though!! We did talk about it once years ago and it turns out we were both having a secret wank in the mornings - her in bed and me in the bathroom!!! She did once tell me she was doing it when she’d found a DVD of mine too, suffice to say I couldn’t concentrate on work after that!!!:hot_face::hot_face::hot_face:

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Samantha here. I know ben masturbates most days. It doesnt effect our sex life so it doesnt bother me. I rarely mssturbate. 2 or 3 times a year maybe. Ill cum once from masturbation whereas ill cum anywhere from 5 to over 20 times from sex.

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We generally know and it’s no secret between us as it is not something either of feel shouldn’t be done or limited if the other wants or needs to do it.

He used to wank a lot in the past, probably because he also watched porn a lot also but I don’t mind this. For the last couple of years he really cut down and tries to wait between us doing things together, which is multiple times a week anyway. He says that with no wanking in between he feels harder, cums harder and feels hornier in between so now he really tries not to masturbate.

He knows I do it ‘regularly’ and ‘often’ which he knows is at least a couple of times a week. He doesn’t usually ask anymore than this, and although we do masturbate together, 99% of the time I’m doing it when he is not around. He’s always said that he loves the thought of me masturbating myself and it turns him on to think about it. I actually do it most days as it is quick and easy for me and I just feel good when I have had an orgasm.

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Did I know how often my 1st wife masturbated?

I’m going with never.

She and I were married in 1989. In the early 2000’s, think it was the fall of 2001, one night my then wife asked me if I’d ever masturbated. Mind you, she and I were in our 30’s, had been married over a decade and at that time we had 3 children together.

I told her yes. She was DISGUSTED with me, told me I was gross, wrong, not normal etc. She left in a huff to go upstairs to bed as we were in the family room downstairs when she asked me that.

She and I were a bad fit for each other in so many ways, in and out of the bedroom. I/we were young and dumb so we got together and it was a huge mistake.

In many ways she was a prude. Forget swear words, words like snot and booger were “bad” words and she was angry with me for saying them.

She and I had zero toys. Sex was boring, for both of us. She wouldn’t experiment etc.
Here ya go, we were like 20 years old, engaged and in college and we were having sex one time, doggy style. I’m an ass man, and while we were having sex I said “look at the ass!”. It was a compliment, I wasn’t being mean or rude of course.

She turned her head back towards me, glared and became increasingly upset and about 30 seconds after I said that she stopped us from continuing as she was so upset with me for having said that to her.

And again, she and I were just 20 years old, in love, young and even that was “bad” and not something I could do with her.

So I will honestly go with her never having masturbated when she and I were together. I hope she did later on though.

It’s like I was lost in the wilderness with her all those years she and I were together. Obviously I was at fault for things too. I should have been long gone but my mom divorced when I was 2 years old, I never wanted to be divorced, we had kids and I didn’t want them to grow up with their mom and dad divorced etc.

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Honestly I think my husband would rather have a games controller in his hand than his joystick. Unless he masturbates at work or privately in the bathroom after work (and I don’t think he’s that deceitful), usually he just… doesn’t.

We have a good sex life, and he knows I love getting him off, as he does me. Actually just last night we had a silly showdown because I said we weren’t having sex like we did the night before; we weren’t getting distracted (or “dickstracted” as my partners and I call it lol) from our evening duties by some silly quip from yours truly. He said he could make me cum because it “doesn’t have to be equal”, quoting my own rule against me that I say when I’m happy to help, but not feeling it (a rarity) myself. I said that I like getting him off too; I turned it on him for how often he insists that I orgasm too, so if I’m tired after, then he gets to be tired too.

At the threat of having his soul drained from his body if he tried, he backed down. Mutually Assured Destruction, but make it sexy :rofl:

My other partner and I both masturbate, sometimes together, other times we just let one another know.

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I know my wife does get herself off at times, though I do not know how often, and never asked. I suspect she knows I do, again, the subject never came up. I would LOVE to know how often she does it, and would not want her to stop. I would like to incorporate some mutual masturbation in our play though have not gone there to date.

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Herman, I can identify with your situation. My first wife never masturbated, and was very sexually inhibited. Our sex life was a bit of a train wreck, though we made it for 23 years, until other circumstances forced me to exit the relationship. My heart goes out to you for your longstanding suffering.

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If I had a partner I don’t see why I would masturbate as I would have someone to have sex with when horny. That being said had I been in a relationship I guess the only scenario I can think off where I would if I was away somewhere like a work trip then I probably would.

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There are times, which I can attest, that having a partner does not guarantee sexual play. If you need release, then it is mostly up to you to take care of it yourself. It is the only guaranteed way to be satisfied. If your partner is willing, great.

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