penis size dissapointment

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I dated a guy who had a hanging package, like you see at the beach, I was actually nervous, my first time thinking everyone doubled when erect, he was 5 inch flaccid 5.5inch erect, and it was pretty good sex, anal was brilliant. Then the OH came along, I only saw him erect for the first few weeks he's about 6.5 inch and that's massive to me, I could never take anything more, we have to move positions because it's too much sometimes, then I saw him flaccid with a 2incher and he told me he had been TRYING to HIDE his flaccid cock because he was embarressed. the OH is a little too big for anal but we're trying.

what I'm trying to show you is 1. Flaccid length is irrelevant and 2. Erect length is irrelevant

less than 2 inch is small, more than 6 inch can be too big. You've got to remember women inside are only about 5inch and the g-spot is 3 inch

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Lots of comments here with lots of valid points. My ex was the only woman I'd slept with and I was her third and while I get the impression that at least one of her exes was longer than me (she'd merely alluded to it, not said outright), I had more girth and seemed to satisfy her more, as I touched her g-spot a lot more, especially when taking her from behind. I don't know if she was merely massaging my ego, but she did make the claim that I was the most satisfying lover of the three.

Personally, I think as much can be said about how considerate you are as a lover and to your partner's needs, as much as what you have to slip inside her. I used to love foreplay and stimulating her with my fingers and kisses, before I even considered entering her. My only real concern is whether 'what God gave me' will please the woman I'm with and I mean that as much as my skill as a lover, as much as my physical attributes.

Whether you think the 'size doesn't matter' comment is just some kinda platitude we get handed out is up to you, but ultimately, if your partner is satisfied with what you give to them in the bedroom - or wherever else you enjoy intimate moments together - then you really shouldn't worry.

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I watched a programmer on penis size. The experiment showed the larger they are soft the less they get bigger when hard. Mine partner is very small when soft.
I agree its more what you do with it. Also a large one I find makes many positions very uncomfortable.
You need to be happy with yourself. That is not small, I have been with that size and was plenty happy and have been with 2 to 9 inches. Learn your techniques and have fun!

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My boyfriend is around 7"s max but probably more often than not 6

& I don't think it makes that much difference, it only ever feels really good if my legs are raised for deeper penetration

I wouldn't worry!

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Have a look on pegym forum they have lots of info and your size will change perhaps a inch anything else would take time. Size isnt really a major issue unless you dont fit well with your OH we are all built different and not everyone is compatible, as long as she enjoys sex dont worry too much. I think girth is more a issue than length, girth would give the woman that more full feeling unelss your tiny which it dont sound like thats the case.

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I often here how people are 7 inch, then occasionally 6 inch. But I'm only between 5 to 5.5 inch long and 5.1 inch girth . People keep saying it's average but when I hear how big I others are it's always bigger.

It probably is me though, my gf has never mentioned it. But I have asked and she has always immediately said she likes my size and doesn't think I'm small at all.

My problem is I think maybe she's been nice, I'm the only guy she's been with and she's only 24 a yr younger than me so maybe doesn't know what else is out there and what another bigger one would be like.

However she is quite tight though.

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Yeah, but remember that for every man who's 7 inches there's one who's 4!

It's just that those who are average or smaller tend not to shout about it too much...

(Or lie and make up figures!)

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I know "it's not the size, it's how you use it" is cliche, but there's some truth in it.

I would revise it to "it's not the size, it's how it's used" (equal opportunities and all that! lol)

Some of the best and most rapidly achieved orgasms my OH has are when I've already had a couple myself and I'd class my penis as semi-erect. This experience is definitely unique as I know for sure that she's genuine about her opinion on size; I'm there for both accounts! As others have said, all the "good stuff" is 2 to 3 inches inside and the best thing to use against the gspot is the head, not the shaft! Often, shallow sex causes more orgasm potential than deep penetration.

This is my view as a male based on personal experience and feel free to correct any assumptions, ladies 😊

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curiousme wrote:

I often here how people are 7 inch, then occasionally 6 inch. But I'm only between 5 to 5.5 inch long and 5.1 inch girth . People keep saying it's average but when I hear how big I others are it's always bigger.

It probably is me though, my gf has never mentioned it. But I have asked and she has always immediately said she likes my size and doesn't think I'm small at all.

My problem is I think maybe she's been nice, I'm the only guy she's been with and she's only 24 a yr younger than me so maybe doesn't know what else is out there and what another bigger one would be like.

However she is quite tight though.

Men lie! And fuel the fire that makes them insecure. If there was a list of every penis size of your counties nationals (your country does make a difference) then everyone would relax. I think average is 5.8 inch in length and 4.8 in girth. My OH is around 6.5 length, but it varies. And 4.8 in girth. And I know I couldn't take anymore either way, I have to warm up to him and some positions are uncomfortable.

the problem is when we say that we don't care about size, which we mostly don't you think "she's just being nice" as long as you're at least 3 inch in length you can do the job.

You're the only guy she's had, the more you tell her you're small the more she'll start to believe it because she doesn't know. She's happy and you're stuck with what you're got so you might as well be happy too!

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Hornwizard wrote:

I know "it's not the size, it's how you use it" is cliche, but there's some truth in it.

There is a lot of truth, whether you're big or small, if you can't use it she either won't get anything from it or will get hurt. You can make anything work if you use it right, have you seen some of the toys we use? My favourite has 2inch of insertable length.

everything else you said is totally right. Some women ONLY enjoy shallow penetration, tbh I do prefer deep penetration but I can't orgasm from it (which just goes to show that good sex isn't measured in orgasms)

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True what you say about the orgasm bit; it's only one part of sex, after all 😉

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curiousme wrote:

I have a recent urge lately to try what I can to increase penis size permanently, I was looking at penis enlargers today, the ones the you wear and the stretch it, if they even work. I am only 5 inch or so and I am her disappointed with it. Especially after been on nude beaches where all the other guys seem to hang so much bigger! I feel like my gf is missing out!

IMO, size really doesn't matter.

As everyone has said on here, it's how you use it and how it fits.

I'm very lucky to have found my Goldilocks of *ocks. My OH's penis fits me like a glove and gives me massive amounts of pleasure. I've never had so many orgasms as I am atm and I'd say he's about average size.

I think that bigger guys tend to be lazy, they just expect the size to do all the work and can actually cause alot of pain and discomfort rather than enjoyment.

I prefer someone who's totally into me than someone hung like a horse.

Am sure your gf is more than happy with you - have you looked at cock rings? They can work magic for both of you, they may not change the size permanently but the size of a flaccid penis is irrelevant anyway :-)

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I've personally experienced a range of sizes, and to be honest the largest did hurt me. I'm very happy with my OH who I'd guess is roughly average (I haven't measured and don't really care to be honest!). I'd much rather have someone a bit smaller who knows how to use it, than someone who is large and causes me pain. Bigger isn't always better - one of my favouorite things is having my OH rubbing himself against my clit - I'd find that pleasurable regardless of his size :).

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The penis is a muscle and muscles get bigger with excersize, I'm not sure about stretching it :/ thats sounds dangerous and surgery will make it bigger but im imagine there can be serious side effects. I'd say try to become proud of what you have, Size is not everything its how you use it :)

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JayAndKitty wrote:

The penis is a muscle and muscles get bigger with excersize, I'm not sure about stretching it :/ thats sounds dangerous and surgery will make it bigger but im imagine there can be serious side effects. I'd say try to become proud of what you have, Size is not everything its how you use it :)

I can underdstand the logic of this point, however am not sure its true. If your point was the case, it would be fair to say that the size of your penis would increase A LOT during your 20s, 30s and 40s and then start to tail off from your 50s onwards?

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AnAccountant wrote:

JayAndKitty wrote:

The penis is a muscle and muscles get bigger with excersize, I'm not sure about stretching it :/ thats sounds dangerous and surgery will make it bigger but im imagine there can be serious side effects. I'd say try to become proud of what you have, Size is not everything its how you use it :)

I can underdstand the logic of this point, however am not sure its true. If your point was the case, it would be fair to say that the size of your penis would increase A LOT during your 20s, 30s and 40s and then start to tail off from your 50s onwards?

So true, i reckon the only way to increase penis size is surgery

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all this fuss over 5cm or so eh!

Saying that, if there was a proven procedure that was safe AND worked, I bet you'd see a queue a mile long ![](upload://l9s9e23YKLHpoOzgGVeUkhZGcEr.gif)

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JayAndKitty wrote:

The penis is a muscle and muscles get bigger with excersize, I'm not sure about stretching it :/ thats sounds dangerous and surgery will make it bigger but im imagine there can be serious side effects. I'd say try to become proud of what you have, Size is not everything its how you use it :)

Its not actually, its mainly spongey tissue that fills with blood when erect. There are muscles in there but they are only a small part of the penis. Thats why there is no way to increase the size of your penis other than surgery, all the exercises and pumps do nothing long term.

Even surgery can only make it look bigger flacid by cutting ligaments and muscles that hold it up or injecting fat to increase girth. They cant increase erect length.

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Dali256 wrote:

JayAndKitty wrote:

The penis is a muscle and muscles get bigger with excersize, I'm not sure about stretching it :/ thats sounds dangerous and surgery will make it bigger but im imagine there can be serious side effects. I'd say try to become proud of what you have, Size is not everything its how you use it :)

Its not actually, its mainly spongey tissue that fills with blood when erect. There are muscles in there but they are only a small part of the penis. Thats why there is no way to increase the size of your penis other than surgery, all the exercises and pumps do nothing long term.

Even surgery can only make it look bigger flacid by cutting ligaments and muscles that hold it up or injecting fat to increase girth. They cant increase erect length.

+1

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BunnyM wrote:

Now see, size matters to me but the other way around. A penis that hits my cervix is painful. A shorter penis is, for me, more comfortable for anal and also for oral, since I like being able to fit all of him in my mouth without it making me gag too much.

That said, beyond those things, which are purely about practicality rather than anything else, penis size really isn't that important. Hell, the size of the thing is the least significant part of how good sex is. It's way more important if someone is open and eager for lots of foreplay, has fun, is willing to experiment and listens to you and your body to see what you're enjoying. The love of my life has a three inch penis and, honestly, beyond the fact that some positions don't work for penetration for us, he's the best lover I've ever had and I adore his penis. And we still do those positions, we just do them humpy! Because sometimes rubbing against each other is just lovely.

Keep in mind as well, that the size of a flaccid penis really doesn't indicate erect size. I've known guys who had 4 inch flaccid penises that, when erect, grey maybe an inch in length. And I've known guys with adorable chubby stump penises that ballooned into monsters. Porn also depicts a really distorted image of what penises are or should be, so don't worry about that unless you also feel hard done by because your other half doesn't look like those women!

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Seriously this though. Huge penises are scary, unless you're super into that.

My Master is the only person I've ever slept with that has a penis, and medically, I know he's on the smaller side. To me? Any bigger and I wouldn't be able to have sex for fear of pain, and knowing that I'd be stretched beyond comfort, or my cervix hit (I'm very tiny on a whole, size has to matter unfortunately).

So, talk to your lady! At the end of the day, she's sleeping with you. Not anyone else who may or may not have a bigger cock. They don't matter. If she's happy with you, that's that. If she maybe want's something bigger, there are toys: dildos, sleeves, extenders etc.
She's still going to want to sleep with you. The revelation of there being bigger penises in the world isn't (or damn well shouldn't) send her running for the hills.