O.K. I'm new to this so please bear with me. I've be married for 30+ years but I'm not THAT OLD (we married young) anyway we bought a buzzy thing for her a while ago and she loves it. Was never very vocal before but moans like a porn star now. She likes all I do to her, all the usual? licking, rimming etc but she just WILL NOT GIVE ME A BLOWJOB, end of. no negotiating, (I just dont like the thought of it) now the real dilemma, hottie in work who I get on quite well with and is much younger than me is very understanding, if you know what I'm saying. I've never been with anyone other than er indoors and don't want to do the dirt but also I don't want to go to the grave without having the bold lad sucked on. any advice? all the usual (wash your dick etc) no use to me
Respect.
Not for you, you for her, just to be clear.Sum Sub wrote:
Respect.
Not for you, you for her, just to be clear.
+1
Thanks Sum Sub & Scorpius12, nice to know I'm not a bastard (yet)
Sum Sub wrote:
Respect.
Not for you, you for her, just to be clear.
+2. If she doesn't want to do something, respect it. Some people just don't like giving blowjobs. If you think your marriage is worth jeopardizing for the sake of "hottie at work who is very understanding" and "getting the bold lad sucked on" then that's quite sad. There's more to life than blowjobs and there are plenty of other intimate acts that you can do instead (and it sounds like you are?). Referring to your wife as "er indoors" isn't very respectful either by the way.
Natand Tom. Yea right, thanks
To be honest, if my OH was like that with me, there's no way his "bold lad" would ever go near my mouth or me in general. Seems like you need to possibly rethink a few things here! What's so special about this other woman compared to your wife? Is a blow job really worth it? The grass only looks greener on the other side, yknow.bog standard wrote:
O.K. I'm new to this so please bear with me. I've be married for 30+ years but I'm not THAT OLD (we married young) anyway we bought a buzzy thing for her a while ago and she loves it. Was never very vocal before but moans like a porn star now. She likes all I do to her, all the usual? licking, rimming etc but she just WILL NOT GIVE ME A BLOWJOB, end of. no negotiating, (I just dont like the thought of it) now the real dilemma, hottie in work who I get on quite well with and is much younger than me is very understanding, if you know what I'm saying. I've never been with anyone other than er indoors and don't want to do the dirt but also I don't want to go to the grave without having the bold lad sucked on. any advice? all the usual (wash your dick etc) no use to me
Honestly, are you really willing to risk your marriage for a blow job ?
What happens when your wife finds out and you find yourself out on your ear , and your " hottie at work " loses interest in you ? 30 + years of marriage down the drain . It really isn't worth it .
Try to focus on the stuff that you do enjoy together instead .
Hmmmm, is it really worth sacrificing your marriage for the sake of a blow job? If it was my husband I would be heartbroken, I would be saddened he thought so little of our relationship where getting oral was more important than the years together. How would you feel if it was your wife that wanted to go to a "younger hottie" for something you wouldn't give her?
My husband enjoys anal. Its only been recently I have have come around to it. However, I have told him I will NEVER rim or use my fingers(long nails I wont cut) and you know what? He's ok with that, he respects me, he respects our marriage.
Please think about your wife's feelings. If you yell her your considering elsewhere for a bit of the nasty, you will guilt her into doing she's not comfortable with and that's just not on.
I hope you can work it all out.
bog standard wrote:
O.K. I'm new to this so please bear with me. I've be married for 30+ years but I'm not THAT OLD (we married young) anyway we bought a buzzy thing for her a while ago and she loves it. Was never very vocal before but moans like a porn star now. She likes all I do to her, all the usual? licking, rimming etc but she just WILL NOT GIVE ME A BLOWJOB, end of. no negotiating, (I just dont like the thought of it) now the real dilemma, hottie in work who I get on quite well with and is much younger than me is very understanding, if you know what I'm saying. I've never been with anyone other than er indoors and don't want to do the dirt but also I don't want to go to the grave without having the bold lad sucked on. any advice? all the usual (wash your dick etc) no use to me
Words fail me I'm married 9 years, health issues with Huby mean no sex now, he like me are devoted to each other. I'd love sex again but I'm not giving up my maraige for a fling, respect please for your wife.
I must agree with all comments its not worth it I love a good bj but I would rather do without than lose my mrs to an urge of want. Believe me I we went nearly 4 years of a sexless marriage but we pulled through without straying and for myself with a high sex drive I never even contemplated straying just had to do D.I.Y 😉
I feel sorry for your wife that you are even considering this.
Buy yourself a fleshlight !
I understand where you're coming from; there are things I do for my partner that I'm not keen on, but I don't get the favour returned. It's frustrating, to say the least. You can take the advice you've been given here to leave well alone, but ultimately there's only you who can make that call. If you're caught, that will more than likely be your marriage over, or at very least there are going to be problems. If you get away with it, well, at least you'll know what a BJ is like, but I imagine you'll then have guilt to contend with. Short term gain, long term loss. If you do go ahead with it, be 100% certain that this woman won't talk about it, because if your wife is going to find out about it, it's better coming from you, than her thinking everyone is looking at her like she's a complete mug.
If you want my advice then just don't do it. Your marriage is far more valuable than an obsession of a BJ .
I am sure there are plenty of things that you do now or things you could do together in the future that's probably just as satisfying .That's what's kept you together for a long time , Right ?
Many temptations do crop up , but you need to deal with them and put them out of your mind.
apart from this one bj issue, do you have a good sex life? if the answer is yes then value your relationship and get a FLESHLIGHT http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=24226 and forget about temptation. Its a similar sensation to oral. don't mess up your marriage
O.K. lads & lassies.Thanks for all the advice. I'm not going to stray and I'll just keep wondering, maybe some day she'll surprise me, fingers crossed.
Cheers
You never know she might just do that one day . I was once reluctant to do a couple of things in the past that I absolutely love doing now :)
I use to get a bj only on my birthdays, SO Im glad shes now my Ex lol 
I know you said no negotiation, but have you really properly talked it through with her? I'm not suggesting you try and convince her, because if it's hard limit for her you need to respect that. But what doesn't she like the thought of? If it's taste, a flavoured condom or lube might be a suggestion. Perhaps she's frightened of not doing it right or hurting you? A good conversation may put her at ease somewhat. Straying isn't the answer though, and I'm glad you've decided against it!
I know you said there's no negotiation with your wife but I would need to know exactly what she doesn't like the thought of. That would be a bit of a cop out answer to me if my oh said the same. A compromise is needed here as and I don't mean go ahead with the other woman. You need to talk with your wife again as this could so easily be resolved either with your wife and finding out her fears and reassuring her about them or using a fleshlight.