I'd find it really odd telling my wife how she can and can't masturbate, and I can't even imagine telling her she couldn't masturbate at all. I think self-pleasuring is really important, and being able to feel absolutely comfortable doing it is even more so.
It is possible to take watching porn too far, but in most cases it's totally harmless. I like to watch porn during my alone time, and Mrs Chimp and I have also watched it together. She finds it very arousing, and has also picked up some great blow job tips. 🙂👍 I can categorically say that it has never made me think that my wife is any less beautiful or less sexually alluring in any way.
I haven't watched porn in a while but do enjoy my Tumblr account. I love pegging, bi and straight mmf , bi and straihgt ffm pics and clips. I would love to get the chance to watch some with the OH.
Thanks for your input Ian, really good to hear from a male perspective too. I appreciate your advice and after all, I shouldn't be telling my husband he can't touch his own body - and I've said this to him as well! He has also said to me he would be a 'bit' annoyed if I masturbated without him knowing. I guess we've both got a bit of a hang up about this (my insecurities and the fact he has been cheated on by another woman before meeting me)! I think we can work on this tho, we are both strong and love each other so much. Communication between us isn't an issue either, so we could discuss this together. I admire the fact you've said "watching porn doesn't make me think my wife is less sexy/beautiful" and my husband has also reassured me of this. Thanks for not judging and for your really helpful feedback! 😉
I wouldn't say I've ever told him he can't mastubate, it was his own decision not to, but I can see where you're coming from. I guess it's just something that I can't shake haha.
In agreement with Mr Chimp too. I watch short videos when alone sometimes, I usually watch 2 women. I prefer it to watching men. My husband prefers woman masterbation. We don't tend to watch it together much, only occasionally.
Hi Ian, don't get me wrong. I didn't want it to come across as I'm 'controlling' in this way to my husband! But, I guess it probably did. I am working on loads of insecurities from childhood trauma and it's hard for me to deal with certain things in the world because I didn't (and probably still don't) know who to trust (except my hubby). I hope I don't sound completely mad, but that's the reality of it for someone like me who's been thru that stuff. I'm basically beginning my life again from scratch, it's challenging but I'm making great progress. I'm going to counselling and this forum is helping loads with adult and relationship advice and making friends. I consider myself very lucky to be talking to everyone on here, including yourself, that's took the time to listen and understand. I even spoke to my hubby 2day and apologised for the way I'd been about certain issues and he was so kind and understanding about it and forgave me. I admire what you and your wife think is healthy, but I guess every relationship is different and people have different values/boundaries. As I say, I'm learning everyday to deal with things better and not worry about what shouldn't b a big issue! Sorry if it came across strange or controlling (I know it probably shocked a few people!) I don't know where I could've turned for this sort of advice, without everyone's input on this forum. Thanks so much for taking time to listen 😃. Have a nice weekend!
I think you both raise some interesting points. I won't go into lots of detail here as I don't want to hijack this thread 🙂, but if you ever want to explore this further you should start a new one. x
@ Louis T
As for choosing porn, I generally have a few favourites that I go to first and then I leapfrog around my collection from there. I quite like having two or three different movies of the same actress playing at once.
I think I enjoy all sorts of porn but I do go for certain types more than others.
Amateur is great - more real than 'commercial' stuff but commercial is good when I'm looking for just a fantasy.
As for types, I love bj and facial scenes and threesomes (both MFF and MMF)/moresomes. I don't tend to go for a lot of girl-girl porn. Occasionally I go for more specific like redheads, public sex or girls in stockings. I love dirty talk so anything with that or something like JOI is good.
I was searching for uk girls recently and there was a clip of a girl being picked up by a fake police officer. It turned out to be outside my local! I had to watch all the clips in that genre, it was hot seeing porn being made right by my house!
I think I enjoy all sorts of porn but I do go for certain types more than others.
Amateur is great - more real than 'commercial' stuff but commercial is good when I'm looking for just a fantasy.
As for types, I love bj and facial scenes and threesomes (both MFF and MMF)/moresomes. I don't tend to go for a lot of girl-girl porn. Occasionally I go for more specific like redheads, public sex or girls in stockings. I love dirty talk so anything with that or something like JOI is good.
I was searching for uk girls recently and there was a clip of a girl being picked up by a fake police officer. It turned out to be outside my local! I had to watch all the clips in that genre, it was hot seeing porn being made right by my house!
I'm a massive fan of the fakecop stuff , think I've watch them all now! I also tend to go for MMF threesomes , uk amateurs and male masturbation.
We watch a lot of double penetration and gangbang porn together (when we're in the mood).Sometimes just a bit of amateur couple porn is enough to do the job.
I think I enjoy all sorts of porn but I do go for certain types more than others.
Amateur is great - more real than 'commercial' stuff but commercial is good when I'm looking for just a fantasy.
As for types, I love bj and facial scenes and threesomes (both MFF and MMF)/moresomes. I don't tend to go for a lot of girl-girl porn. Occasionally I go for more specific like redheads, public sex or girls in stockings. I love dirty talk so anything with that or something like JOI is good.
I was searching for uk girls recently and there was a clip of a girl being picked up by a fake police officer. It turned out to be outside my local! I had to watch all the clips in that genre, it was hot seeing porn being made right by my house!
I'm a massive fan of the fakecop stuff , think I've watch them all now! I also tend to go for MMF threesomes , uk amateurs and male masturbation.
Imagine the several of the fakecop videos being shot less than a mile from your house. On a road you drive down every day.
I have my go to channels that update new videos. Number of inked, bondage, lesbian, trans, anal, fetish etc.
I do sometimes have a scroll through to see what takes my fancy and I have had others suggest things to me that do peak my interest. I am generally very open minded when I'm in the mood.
What is the definition of 'twink' porn please, and is it mainly focused on gay porn or does it also refer to straight, beautiful, hot women porn? Thanks all. 😉
What is the definition of 'twink' porn please, and is it mainly focused on gay porn or does it also refer to straight, beautiful, hot women porn? Thanks all. 😉
Doesn't really refer to a particular type of porn, more a way to describe a 'type' of gay guy, like Bear (usually a well built, hairy gentleman). Twink is usually a lean, pretty, small guy. So yes if porn features a 'twink' it's likely to be male/male, I'm not sure if there is a similar term for ladies.
Many years ago , most of the porn was pretty bad . I think out of a hundred or do , I thought maybe less than a half dozen were good . I do not enjoy an hour or more of humping or sloppy head . I prefer sensual movies with a good plot of romance , excitment and fun and or kinky sex . Love Pornhub . I just look for almost anything that is in my wheelhouse . Milf , masturbation , strptease and almost anything thats not violent . Wifes pegging husband and other forms of domination . Some good girl on girl pussy eating .
Thanks for your comments 'AmyA', glad I know what it means now! 😉.
Thanks those who have referenced 'Pornhub' and nice to hear others enjoying watching porn that's not violent and/or degrading to women.
Agree with 'MissTerror' all genres of porn she mentioned are pretty much right up my street. Would love to watch some 'anal' next (M2F or FF 'strap on' - quite intrigued about seeing this!!) Love FFM stuff, yet to watch MMF porn! Thanks all. x