My wife and I have wonderful, enthusiastic, varied sex. Recently I bought her a BIG dildo - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=6456 .What she really likes is for me, her new BIG friend and other toys to "take turns" in her, usually doggy style. I find it so hot fucking her with the toys then slipping them out and fucking her soaking wet, stretched pussy. She says she loves the way the toys fill her up and stretch her out and usually cums several times both with me and with the different toys. She also likes to suck my cock while I fuck her with one of the big toys. What I wonder though and she is carefully avoiding telling me, is how my cock (a bit on the small side) must feel after these big toys. It's noticeable that her orgasms are much more intense and quicker with the big toys than they are with my cock and once she gets started with the toys she likes more and more to suck me or play with me while using the toys instead of being fucked by me. She also suggested it would be fun if I could get a really big hollow strap-on to fuck her with. I guess it's a fantasy thing and I don't see it causing any problems as we're both having a great time but I can't help wondering lol. Maybe it's a guy thing.
Does anyone else here have fun like this? Any opinions?
The fact is that cocks are pretty poor tools, for the most part, at making women orgasm. It may just be that the bigger toy manages to hit her G-spot better and it may be an idea to experiment with your hands or fingers or as you say she may just get off on the idea mentally, because sex in the mind is a huge part of things. Maybe she just enjoys sucking cock a lot!
As long as you are both happy then just enjoy it for what it is!
personally size does not matter to me. I've had a partner whom needed large condoms, and a partner who was of normal size, and out of the two i must say that it hurt less with the regular sized partner.
also if you look at the selection of dildos and vibes available most of them are smaller than 6 inches insertable.
I like big toys, as I also love the feeling of being stretched like that. At the same time though, sex with my OH doesn't feel any less good because he hasn't got a mahoosive cock.
I think the thing with toys is that they don't have the benefit of really being able to move, or have anything like the feeling of being with another person. For that reason, I think toys need to do fancy things to get a woman off. Even if there was the most amazing toy in the world that did everything, I still dont think it would beat sex with another person.
Even if there was the most amazing toy in the world that did everything, I still dont think it would beat sex with another person.
I totally agree with that. Toys are great in their own way but they can't replace sex with a real live man. And I've yet to meet a toy which can turn me on just by looking suggestively at me External Media
If you feel uncomfortable, I think it would be worth speaking to your OH to find out for yourself. Whatever we say on here may be different to what she feels.
For me I've always preferred average cocks. It often hurts me to have sex with someone bigger. However, I spoke to them partners at the time and discussed better positions etc to make it nicer for me.
I dont think cocks are poor at making woman cum. Often its not even bout the size, its the position, speed and all those other things. I certainly have no problem cumming, and I have cum on loads of different sizes lol.
If you have worries, talking to her may reassure, and if its not the answer your looking for maybe you need to both work on sex without toys on the odd session as sometimes its all and basics, with no props.
As an average sized man, I'm happy to hear all you ladies saying that its not everything! My OH says that size does not matter but we all still have our little doubts and niggles
Perhaps its just the thrill of somehing different? I know my OH likes it when we use larger vibrators and penis extensions, but she also likes it when there is just natural ole me!
Big ones are fun to look at and play with, but really they are Really impractical, at least for me. I'd much, much rather have someone who was average.
The last time we had sex, her taking turns between me and the toys like i described in my original post, at one point I wanted back in again and she almost screamed "Oh god no! not now!" She came a few minutes after that and it was clearly a pretty intense orgasm.
She (thankfully!) let me back in after she'd cum and we did talk about it then. She says my cock feels really small after the toys, especially the length, to the extent that sometimes it's hard to tell if I'm in or not. She told me she had said no at that point because she was close to cumming and didn't want that little thing (meaning my penis lol) back in her then. Before that I thought it was mainly girth that matters but I guess length does too.
If its the length of the vibe/dildo that makes her orgasm then I guess she's one of those women who has pleasure areas quite close to the cervix (or near enough to it). It sounds like thats what she's focussed on, perhaps to the exclusion of other pleasure areas?
Are there other things you could do to give her just as intense an orgasm while you are inside her? Focus on her clit, g-spot, anal or whatever it is that she finds most pleasurable. If you're not already doing that, might she find it fun to figure out another way to have intense orgasms that didn't involve so much of a fixation on toys?
Personally, I don't like a long cock; it hurts too much. Gimme average any day of the week.
i can sort of understand why she might find something smaller much less pleasurable after having a big toy inside her- i think we tend to become a bit numbed to the more subtle sensations after rougher play if you see what i mean.
but i can imagine that her wanting you to fuck her with a big strap on and saying what she said about your penis would make you feel a bit inadequate.
i think you need to talk her again- i agree with yoko- try new ways of pleasuring her like maybe trying some anal play.
and make sure you are getting your share of all the pleasure aswell
