To be honest i think it comes down to confidence. I mean during PIV i dont like too as I dont like touching myself infront of him. I get embarassed easily. More recently I have been doing as OH likes me too.
I nearly always use my lovehoney mini vibe, as this is so powerfully and hits the spot, my partner loves me using my fingers or toys so dont have to worry but him no feeling not useful.
Difficult when her hands are tied up above her head.
But, that’s probably for another thread.
It’s perfectly normal.
That being said I generally don’t because I don’t find it gets me off well at all. That’s probably more to do with my anatomy than anything else. If I’m being penetrated, my clitoris just doesn’t respond as well. It’s really quite bizarre. Could this be why she doesn’t do it rather than just because of her partners ego?
Yes, do it with fingers or small vibrator (always have done) or, since we bought it, with this -
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31398
also have the mains-powered version. Both are really fantastic!