Hi everyone,
I'm new here so I hope this is the right section to be posting on :)
To put this in perspective: I've only had two sexual partners in my life, so it's difficult for me to have a sense of normalcy I suppose. My first sexual partner was very very tame. Sex was always soft and loving, primarily missionary, and not very satisfying for me.
I've been seeing a new guy for the past two months. He is aggressive and I love it. But... though the sex is incredibly hot and offers a whole lot of daydreams to help myself get off later, he has yet to make me cum. I have literally never had an orgasm from anyone other than myself.
I like to think that I'm decently openminded about sex, and what I lack in experience I try to make up for with enthusiasm :P I am incredibly turned on by pleasuring others, so I don't mind giving more than I'm receiving. But he is of a mindset that in bed he is the boss. I wouldn't mind this, but it's to the point where if I do something he doesn't like, or do something without him telling me to, he stops me. This includes me asking him to go down on me (has yet to happen in two months though he claims to not have issues with it and though I have given him many a blowjob and pride myself on them ;P), and even touching myself (he'll growl something like, "good girls do what they're told" and will hold my hands above my head while he takes me). When we talk about sex he claims he wants to make me cum more than anything, but when we actually start doing anything he switches right back to his domineering, me-first, mindset.
As I said, I don't have too much experience here. So for all you out there- I know it's more difficult for the girl to cum and that it won't happen every time, but is this getting excessive? I have talked to him about it, and I thought I was quite clear, but any suggestions for other things I could say or do to convince him that I need a little more attention?
Usually when I bring it up I end up feeling guilty because he claims that if I had more experience and knew what I was doing then I would be able to cum by penetration. I've researched this and I'm pretty sure it's not true. But if someone who DOES know what they're doing could offer me some reassurance it would be greatly appreciated.
Apologies for the quantity of questions, but I really just need some honest advice. Thanks in advance!!