What an insensitive person! And she is a social worker? Mind you, I have similar obtuse responses from doctors so sadly, it doesn't surprise me.
I have Fibromyalgia, which has been more severe for 4/5 years. 'Luckily' it is a syndrome with no life threatening issues, or damage to the body, but I am in pain, or feel ill, most days.
During sex, the worst thing for me is having my legs open. Say during oral sex. Gradually (Well, after a few minutes.) I feel pain kicking in around my hip sockets area, like someone has over stretched the ligaments. If I ignore that, which I sometimes did when I was enjoying myself, I can't close my legs! If I try to close my legs the pain shoots all around my hips and groin and thighs and I literally scream. I have to lift my knees with my arms and slowllllly bring my legs together, through gritted teeth. Of course, theres other things I struggle with. Woman on top kills me. I am also into bondage/BDSM but I cannot be tied up in any positions where I have any strain on any joints or muscles. It just hurts so much I feel physically like I will throw up. This also applies to too much jiggling about or fast furious sex. Makes me feel like I am on a waltzer. Erghh. My balance is sucky, which I think is what makes me feel sick a lot. That and the pain killers I take, which make me feel sick when I move. Blowjobs and handjobs also kill my muscles and I can feel like I run a marathon the next day. Doesn't stop me though lol.
I used to take SSRI and other forms of anti depressant (For the pain rather than depression) and they KILLED my sex life. I couldn't even orgasm and had no urges anymore. THAT was depressing. At least before I could enjoy some sex, they took all of that away.
My sex life is effected my my ill health but I still enjoy it and still have as much as I can. I have quite a high sex drive anyway. There are often times we have to stop because my hips have seized up or something, but then we carry on when the pain is gone. We just try something else instead. lol Of course, we are sexual beings, we will all find a way to have sex, working around our issues. I often feel pathertic or embarrassed when I talk about my health. I am in pain often but I also know there are people much worse off with much more severe issues than me. However, hopefully you took something of use from my waffle lol
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