To be fair, I’ve done the same. My OH wouldn’t look at toys at all. They just never crossed her mind and had no interest when I brought them up. But everything I’ve bought for her she’s enjoyed ( I started by throwing them in as a Christmas stocking filler and it was a great start to Christmas Day ), and then I got my ADHD diagnosis and we’ve embraced my need for change and variety.
The clit sucker put a spanner in the works. She thought they were a stupid idea when I told her. That didn’t last long.
Soon she declared we could bin all her other toys because nothing did it the way a suction toy did. Thankfully she was just being melodramatic and has never mentioned divorce.
When hubby started with his ed problems he suggested that I look at the lh website for something. The only toys he has purchased were on my Xmas present list, other than that he bought a few extenders and although he could get them on they were too much for me and really hurt so he pretty much leaves it to me now to buy what takes my fancy.
I remember my first toy and it took a while for me to actually use it. I have a toy that hubby bought me for Xmas that I have not used yet (I asked for it). It’s a thrusting rabbit and I have been trying to get the courage up to actually use it.
I guess you need to be in a proper mood to try new stuff. I keep thinking she will one day just grab up a toy and play with it. Although, if we’re only having sex once a week, and she is satisfied with the “ usual” mode, moving on toward anything new is a challenge.
My husband definitely loves to watch! Hes ‘caught’ me a few times (i knew he was coming home and got a thrill from the thought of him finding me). When it comes to my pleasure hes very on board with anything that takes it next level! I feel the same and love watching him too!
My OH and I start most sex sessions with her using a pink vibrator on her clit while I suck and gently bite her nipple and put a finger up her asshole. When we later do anal, she again uses the vibrator on her clit. We both love all of this.
