I agree it’s incredibly hot as a penis wielder. I love to please.
And I do it to excess. I also love to self deny. I also have a (good natured), Control fetish which all couples together nicely.
I’ve always loved pleasing the woman I’m with until they are desperate. They see how clearly aroused I am and how much leakage I have while doing my thing.
I go crazy when women beg me to “please give it to me finally etc,” comments. I have a longstanding history of not complying.
When I finally decide to do so though after fetish level pleasing (to completion of their orgasm to rinse and repeat), , or stopping their orgasm at the exact second they are about to get one with out PIV, and they are squirming with anticipation (either due to repeated orgasms without PiV or repeated denials without PIV.)
When I can’t take them begging for it anymore and finally do penetrate, the sheer level of pleasure they exhibit has always been the “end goal of the fetish.”
It’s made better when they are still “enjoying themselves repeatedly while I’m penetrating for a while, before I finally cave and am incapable of denying them my “release,” and when it’s done after that much build up/kink/fetish level activity.
The results are explosive for both of us and unbelievably satisfying.
I find nothing sexier than telling a woman no, when they are pleading for me to do what most other men expect to have women make them feel at the beginning.
To see the confusion, “why am I having to ask when I’m always being asked,” dynamic is reversed and they finally realize it.
Maybe I’m weird. I just like the psychological effect being clearly displayed when the role reversal is recognized.
I guess it is similar to how i find it so much more enjoyable to make the “woman chase me,” rather than just be another man chasing her. Even though I’m chasing her just doing it differently and making her feel I’m not until she feels like she has to be the pursuer.