OH says I am to big in length and girth to fit in her mouth ( she tried), so she will not give me oral sex. I can do it to her, but she won't Let me kiss her when I am finished.
What can I do to get my OH to perform oral sex on me? Do I need to "cheat" on her and find someone who is willing to give it. I have a friend that will.
Hi Ggarvine, it would never be right to “cheat” on a loving partner. In a sexual relationship you both need to be understanding and respectable, if you are unable to receive oral sex then could you try other forms of receiving pleasure from your partner?. In this case it may be more than just size being an issue and if you have doubts or problems you should speak to your partner. Maybe you could ask her in a non direct way if anything else causes her to be reluctant to giving oral sex.
I would suggest the first thing is to talk and get some grounding, I can understand the frustration when you Can’t get what you truly want but we cannot force anyone to perform a physical act for us. If she really doesn’t like
Giving oral sex then you could get a toy from lovehoney as they have a lot of flashlights etc which can give you the same sensations, if however you are leading down the road of cheating to simply get a blowjob I would maybe think about what the relationship is worth.
I don’t want any of this to come across negative but you need to look at this and think how important it truly is to you and if you really love your partner then a blowjob shouldn’t stand in the way of keeping a healthy relationship
There are some women who simply don't like giving oral to a man the same way as there are men who don't enjoy giving oral to a woman....it's just the way life is.
Cheating won't solve anything, yes sure you'd get the blowjob you want but what then ? Would you keep going back for more ? And you have to ask yourself how you'd feel if your partner went elsewhere for a sex act that you weren't able to give her.
As LIL_KNOWN69 has said have a gentle talk with her about her reasons but you need to accept that you can't make someone want to do something and there are always toys that can simulate the feeling instead.
You don't have to get it all in to give a decent blow job!!
Ggarvine wrote:
What can I do to get my OH to perform oral sex on me? Do I need to "cheat" on her and find someone who is willing to give it. I have a friend that will.
How would you get her to do something she doesn't want to do? The simple answer is you don't get her to do anything.
The other answer is:
Communicate.
There are also oral toys that maybe you could use as a couple to emulate the oral side of things.
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex-toys/male-sex-toys/blow-job-toys/
But certainly, cheating is the wrong way to go about it, unless you want to make her feel worthless.
Fully agree with every single response already given here by others so no need to repeat them but 100% agree on all of above.
If soeone doesnt want to do some thing sexually then you cannot make them it would be wrong, if its something youre willing to talk about maybe try other variations of oral pleasure? Like not just full mouth on sucking maybe try kissing, using saliva, licking up and down, just taking in the end a little bit whilst using hands, trying to not be too graphic and break rules here so I hope that makes sense. :)
My OH doesn't take all of my penis in her mouth however she sucks the head and takes as much as she wants but I still get a lot of pleasure from it. Appreciate whats she does not what she doesn't do
Firstly I would say you need to talk to your Oh as cheating should not be the solution, as it will most likely end your relationship when she finds out. I know thats harsh, but it is true.
With the size part; do you might me asking what length and girth you are? My Oh is alot bigger than average so sometimes I have to take a break from giving head with my mouth as does make my jaw ache a bit. Even if you are 'too big' as she says, there are ways around it to which she could think about. Using her tongue to massge your cock is one way, Just have the tip in her mouth and sucking on that while she uses her hand and some lube to move up and down the shaft. As most of the sensory glands (I've been told) are in the head it works quite well :). But she has to be 100% willing to try this in the first place. I sounds like you might be pressuring her a bit, and that will put any girl off. I literally love giving my Oh head, but even if he pressured me I would be really put off from doing it, so he just lets me flow and never asks, so then I have no pressure and want to do it.
With the kissing bit; some girls don't like it and its the same for guys. It's purely down to preference and it is something you will have to accept. Although one think I do is leave a glas of mouthwash by the bed so if Oh doesn't want to kiss me after head, I swish that round my mouth and spit it back into the glass, then can kiss :).
You really need to talk to your Oh though and compromise a bit by the sounds of it. I really hope that has helped.
Married and prepared to cheat? not a good combination, if its not for her just accept it, there's lots more that you can both do ?
Ggarvine wrote: OH says I am to big in length and girth to fit in her mouth ( she tried), so she will not give me oral sex. I can do it to her, but she won't Let me kiss her when I am finished. What can I do to get my OH to perform oral sex on me? Do I need to "cheat" on her and find someone who is willing to give it. I have a friend that will. You
It sounds like your partner has hygiene issues. You would have to be monsterous in size for her not to fit it in her mouth! As she won't let you kiss here after you go down on her suggests that she considers oral sex as dirty. My suggestion is to talk to her about what she doesn't like about it. Jaw ache is my main complaint when going down on my husband for too long. The hygiene issue can be addressed by showering before sex or what about oral sex in a shared shower or bath where she can wash you and get down to a little oral? Small steps to overcome this problem not cheating on her! 🙁
I would talk to her about it, is it really a deal breaker? Cheating isn't the answer.
My hubby is very large but I can still perform oral on him because he loves it and I do too. Though I won't if he's not freshly showered 😂 I don't always like to kiss after he's given me oral same as he wouldn't kiss ne after he's finished in my mouth, it's all personal preference and that's something we have to respect of our partners.
Every relationship is a compromise between two different people, I think we choose to be in a relationship with a person because we feel they meet our needs. I dont believe anyone meets ALL of another persons needs, this is why relationships can be difficult at times and why communication is important. If youve reached a point your considering going to someone else to meet your needs then perhaps you are at a point where you need to re-evaluate whether you are in a relationship with the right person for you. If you think you would be happier with someone else, then perhap she would be also.
Jess, I love how you did that 😂. No need for an explanation, it’s straight to the point. This video needs to be pushed out into the wild as far as we can, it’s 2018 and everyone should
Know we all have a choice and consent is the number one thing in any intimate situation, no matter how vanilla something may seem to someone it could be very new to someone else.