Well, I'm not a woman but I can offer a little wisdom. Nothing you won't have heard before though! The long and the short of it is that unfortunately, the harder you try the harder it will likely become to reach orgasm! As many will tell you, try to relax and not focus on orgasming. When you have a good amount of time alone, play with yourself. I would even say do it without toys. Explore with your fingers and some lube. Don't focus on orgasm, just figure out what you like the feel of and what you don't like the feel of. Don't focus on any one area just yet. Play with your labia, stroke your inner thighs, try different ways of stimulating your clitoris and try penetration first with one finger and then progress to more if you wish. If you find something you like the feel of then keep doing it for a while before trying something different. Once you start figuring our what you like the feel of and what you don't like the feel of you can start to refine the things you do like the feeling of and see if or how you can enhance the sensations. It could be by varying the tempo or pressure or even using more or less lube. You can also try linear vs circular vs tapping vs thrusting vs stroking motions. This doesn't all have to be during one long masturbatory session. You may prefer to try a little at a time every now and then. You may be starting to get the picture. There is no blueprint for an orgasm because it's different for everyone! It takes patience, an open mind and willingness to experiment to find out what works for you. The one thing that does seem to be the same for everyone is the need to be relaxed. Don't try to chase your orgasms, let them come to you! If or when you learn how to make yourself come I'm posetive you will find that hte most satisfying orgasms are the ones which you allow to come over you rather than the ones you "chase"!
As for your virginity, don't sweat it and don't rush it! Sex is great when it's with the right person. It is also better when you know what you like and what you don't like so that you can direct your partner. This takes us back to taking the time to explore and play with yourself! As you learn what you like and don't like and how to intensify the good sensations see how far you can push the good sensations without trying too hard. It may not happen on day one or during week one but with a little luck this approach will bring you to orgasm! Above all, relax and just enjoy making yourself feel good!
It's also worth knowing that having an orgasm isn't necessarily the best part of sex (solo or with a partner).
I hope you have many pleasurable hours to yourself!