So I don't usually ask for ideas as I quite like thinking up things myself, having a browse and talking things over. Simply, I have a close male friend, I'm female and we're both straight, that I sleep with, we're exclusive on that as we're not in a place to be in a relationship with each other or others but we like each other and we were friends for some while before we talked about sleeping together. He mentioned that he would like to try with me being much more in control of things. It's something I've wanted to do but haven't previously but in his case we are very compatible and have much the same attitudes with sex and trying things out. I'm pretty flattered he's willing to relinquish control and trusts me so I want to make it a good experience for both of us.
I have some positions in mind, generally with me on top where I'm in charge or he has to focus on me but I also have ones where it's more romantic but I'm still the one in charge depending on our mood. We're very much of the opinion that we will try most things once and if we don't like it we just won't do it again and we certainly are comfortable talking about sex together.
We do like tying each other up and have some simple, soft restraints for that as it's not too hardcore and they feel nicer! We've blind folded each other, had a bit of spanking which we enjoyed but that was just with our hands and I love giving him massages if we're in a sweet mood to start things which I guess puts me in a more gently dominant position. I do have some massage stones which could be used for some temperature play which I think would be fun and as we both like candles a massage candle might be an idea. I did think of denial for example telling him when and where he can touch me etc. There are a lot of ways I could take this!
I guess I would like to approach this in a more gentle manner as that's more unexpected to take charge in a more subtle and softer way than the way people think when you mention being more dominant. Of course I am open to some less gentle ways but as this is a new thing I don't want to terrify anybody and of course we need to talk about what is and isn't okay for both of us, like we haven't got onto discussing back door play for either of us and to be honest I'd rather leave that out in this case as that'd be throwing in too much plus I think this show of trust from him is quite something so I don't want to squander it by throwing too much at us!
Thanks and be interesting to see what you think or maybe come up with some things the other ladies would like to try on their other?