Oh bless you, I’m sorry to hear you went through that. Relationships are 50/50, or at least they should be 
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Thanks for the kind words @Tenshadesandme, I might be mature in my years but I’m still supple enough
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No problem, any time! You know you count on me to give you a good ribbing 
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We switch occasionally, but my partner loves to be dominated and degraded, I’m a dominant at heart and love being in control of her pleasure.
the power of edging her with a wand or a clit sucker and seeing her beg is enough to send me over the edge
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I love being submissive. It’s my opportunity to just enjoy what I’m feeling and see his dominant side.
Outside the bedroom with me he’s so considerate, gentle, and happily goes with the flow. But when he bosses me about in the bedroom….
It took some practice for him to stop asking me what I wanted/was it ok. We know each others boundaries and if I’m not in the mood for something particular I will say. Otherwise it’s dealers choice 
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Amazing, I totally fantasise about this and think my husband would love to be a full time fem!sub, but our dog is already displeased when we try any kind of spanking etc which has got disheartening for us so it just doesn’t happen anymore.
From my count, the last time he was inside me was some time in September, before that was last Christmas day 
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So when you watch her being p!easured by someone else how does that make you feel not being in control of her p!easure then? Knowing someone else is able to do that to her and you are not part of it. Just curious how jealousy does not effect you and how does that affect your dominance in that situation, do you tell him what to do or just sit and watch her being dominated by another guy.
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Over the last 5 or 6 years, I have progressed to a category I like to call, “SubAF.” (It’s a Sub-category - yes that’s a terrible dad joke!)
I’m not quite in the same league as some of our legends here, but I happily submit to almost anything Sexterminatrix wants of me and we both love it, and that’s what’s important.
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The idea of “legends” made me wince, personally i think it’s a bit of a sticky wicket when people start comparing who is more Dom, sub etc. We just are, and that’s should be where it ends 
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Just… right? My husband is such a sweetheart, he is such a nice guy, but in the bedroom he’ll happily torture me because it’s so much fun to make the brat squeal 
A lot of people think he’s submissive and I’m the Dominant one, and I want to agree with them if only because it’s fun to wind him up. Then I get the look that’s like “agree at your own peril” and I’m like “ulp, I’ll behave” 
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@Tenshadesandme a fair call, but my comment was never about it being a competition. If you’re into a certain way of being in the bedroom, there are naturally others who embrace that style too, perhaps more so, and they could be an inspiration to those who want to try it out more, but may not be comfortable enough to do so. Which was all I meant by that, not naming names or kink shaming in any way.
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Got you, you meant everyday kinksters vs bedroom-only kink? In that case yes, I’m always happy to help people, as I think many others here are
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@Tenshadesandme indeed, but it can also apply to dom/me, sub, switch, or simply someone who wants to try something that excites them but needs help finding the courage to ask their partner for what they want. I’m sure many people (myself included) have expanded their sexual horizons by sharing the advice (and antics!) on this forum with their partners, where otherwise it may never have come up in conversation. Hence the reason someone might become a “legend” on here, even if it helps that one person achieve an elusive sexual happiness.
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Well quite that too 
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