It’s only contentious to me because you don’t share the fact you’re having this fun with Mrs Chucky, if you are having fun and enjoying yourself and no harm arises, then all power to you. If it helps you perform better for her then it’s a win-win.
However not everyone is as lucky (or daft) enough to share secrets in the way I do with Mrs Simon.
I’ve told her the fact that I when have been to see my friend C that we can get a bit excited and start sharing stories or him dressing up etc that it is inevitable that we may ‘play’ together sometime and she said “I though you had been for years”. Not that we have done so yet, but I know there’s no secret to hide if we did.
A week or too back when we are a bit tipsy, we go too the subject of history. I owned up to the two previous male encounters I’ve had, one around 30 years ago with my then friend P in his office (told the story on here recently) and another years before that I cannot say on here. Both consensual encounters that felt contextually ok at the time.
She then shared some other history about her I didn’t know about that was broadly similar. Maybe it’s our age creeping up, but no consequences have arisen from this recent openness.