Crickey that’s a long day @pootle mate 
@Knight1119 we can do upto 15hrs 3 times a week and a maximum of 84hrs a week legally!!! @JoCat reading the tachograph laws is a sure fire way to fall asleep 
@daddycool1979.mw - Wow, just wow. Your reptiles are fantastic! Great photos of the snakes too.
Hope you are soon feeling yourself again soon and feeling much better too ! 
Thank you been keeping boa’s for nearly 20 years now 
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@RacyRosalee, I used to struggle with the clips on suspender belts too. I now attach the stockings to the suspenders before putting the stockings on which makes everything so much easier! If you’re careful you can also hand wash the stockings whilst still attached to the belt and once dry they’re ready to go again. I’m not sure if you’ve already tried this but i thought I’d mention it because it took me years to realise I could do this and i thought it might help you too.
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@Kitty-Cat01, thanks for your suggestion, I already attach the garters/suspenders before putting the stockings on, because as you mention, it’s way easier. However, it’s still not very accessible in regards to the actual clip style, especially depending on people’s level of fine motor skills, or issues with their hands/fingers.
The motion and constant fiddling to try and attach/fix them is what causes my fingers to flare with fibro, and causes an awful, burning sensation throughout the muscles. Attaching them before wear unfortunately doesn’t change this, as it’s the clip’s design that’s the issue. I only attached 2 of 4 clips for my photos, and just doing those are enough to cause a flare.
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Ah, that makes sense. Sorry, my suggestion isn’t going to be helpful then 
My difficulties were very different to yours. I simply struggled with fatigue whilst trying to bend around to do up fiddly clasps.
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Don’t apologise! It’s still a good suggestion, I appreciate you taking the time to try and help 
And I’m sure someone scrolling by will definitely appreciate the tip, because getting those back clasps on standing up? Absolutely not 
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There seem to be so many people going through things at the moment, it is hard to keep track of who I’ve sent virtual hugs and who I haven’t. So, for everyone in the wars at the moment, I’m thinking of you all and trying to send good wishes. You’re all an amazing bunch xx
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Popping into the lounge to ask for a little bit of input… My best friend has just had a baby (last night!) and I’m wondering what to get her for Christmas. Is there anything that a new mum would really appreciate that maybe she hasn’t got already? Any ideas welcome!
Maybe an offer of a couple of hours housework/keeping the baby so she can take some time to relax? (Maybe with some chocolates/face/foot mask type stuff)
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Something for her. Definitely not something for the baby. She’ll have loads of that
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My best friend as just had a baby and I got her a big bottle of vodka
Last time I did a hamper with pjs, face mask, bottle of wine and bath bits.
I don’t do newborn baby gifts for friends as you literally have everything you could possibly need. Where the mum is still wearing the same pjs for 5 days straight.
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Hi, I know this is rather boring but a niece once said the best present she had when she came out of hospital was some prepared meals that went in the freezer. She didnt need to think about things just microware and eat. i think because she was so tired /busy with baby. I know its not a great idea but practical. I would buy the baby a teddy bear. Again no imagination. @For_Your_Eyes_Only_x
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I liked having snacks as meals went out of thw window for me. My mum also bought me my favourite drinks to make sure I kept hydrated. If breastfeeding, pjs that open easily were handy, especially when its cold! I loved having proper button up pjs and dressing gown to be snug when feeding. Even if she has some, extras are good since washing waits a bit longer and baby sick/milk coming back up.
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@MsSubExperimenter @KinkyMira @Deanna32 @steve19 @Cupcake2 - thanks all for the replies! Definitely agree that it should very much be focussed on her. Some comfy loungewear sounds like a really good idea, some pamper bits and snacks. She’s fiercely independent and I know she’ll always decline offers of practical help but I’ll certainly offer.
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meals for sure and once everyone has gone back to work etc make a date for lunch as gets a bit lonely and isolating a few weeks down the track. Dispossable incontinence pants a life saver and padsicles for sore vagina
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Make sure you tell her it’s an open offer. And bring it up a week or two later. Amazing what a stretch of sleep deprivation does to one’s fierce independence.
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@hwmorehead This is very true, even simple things like taking a shower can be an ordeal when theres a new born in the house plus once a few weeks have passed everyone settles back into their own routine meaning less visitors and it can be a lonely time for someone with a newborn.
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