The next step, recommendations

We have this strap on https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=28425 And are looking to see which dildo would be the next to go to? Everyone's different etc I know, but what ones do people reccomend next?

We love the feeldoe strapons, not too big but big enough to give it a nice full feeling, plus its double ended so both parties get some pleasure.

Sorry, I mean next as in, the next one to use with this harness.

Hi Bigian,

Perhaps you might get more answers if you give some specifics of what you or your partner like.

For instance; Penis shapeed or non-phallic? Hard or soft? Smooth or textured?

I'm sure you'll find some great recommendations from the lovely people on these forums if you give some more details.πŸ˜πŸ‘

Knottydevil wrote:

Hi Bigian,

Perhaps you might get more answers if you give some specifics of what you or your partner like.

For instance; Penis shapeed or non-phallic? Hard or soft? Smooth or textured?

I'm sure you'll find some great recommendations from the lovely people on these forums if you give some more details.πŸ˜πŸ‘

The detail is...we are open and don't really know where to go, so any suggestion is a good suggestion

Dual density is the way to go if you fancy something which feels as close to the real thing as possible; whithout actually being part of a man body. https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/search/?q=dual+density+dildos

The thinest one is this https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=40335, but at 4.5 inches girth it's a big jump from the 3 inch one you have.

This one https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30709 is tapered from 3.5 inches to 4.75, the first 2 inches of length is 3.5 inches in girth. Only the last 1.5 inches is 4.75 in girth. I think this one is a good one to work up to the dual density one above.

This one is just 3.5 inches in girth https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=34638, and is the same girth for all it's length.

This one is 3.75 inches in girth, with some delicious bumps to drive your bum wild. See how you go, but I would say don't jump more than 1 inch at a time; the tapered one will get you there in one dildo but you may not get it all in at first. Work with it as often as you can. If you leave anal penetration to a now and again thing you will end up back at the begining each time you try. If you do it as often as you can ( every couple of days if you can, even if it's just to get it in for a minute ) at first, eventually ( a few moths) you should be able to go a week or more without feeling like you have never do anal before.

You could also work up to a bit bigger with a glass dildo, like this one at 4 inches in girth. https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32885. glasss is super slippery when lubed up, plus being hard you don't get the " I can't get it in for it bending all over the place" issue, which can plague beginers. Building up in girth solo is the best way to go in my opinion, especially if your Oh has only a bit of experience in pegging someone.

Glass in a harnesss is amazing, but it's not for someone who has never worn a harnesss for pegging before; as if you get the angle wrong your guy will be screaming.

Thanks Alice A couple if your links don't work but I appreciate the effort

I have the purple one. And the lovehoney bearded glass one. She has a glass one which I'm unsure of what it is...it has a loveheart handle, top thing. So we can try them, well the purple one first

we have a few plugs, the fear is, the plugs are wider than the black one, so when she finally gets round to doing it, will it be enoygh or would we need to go slightly bigger?

Alicia4Ever wrote:

Dual density is the way to go if you fancy something which feels as close to the real thing as possible; whithout actually being part of a man body.

The thinest one is this https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=40335 but at 4.5 inches girth it's a big jump from the 3 inch one you have.

This one https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30709 is tapered from 3.5 inches to 4.75, the first 2 inches of length is 3.5 inches in girth. Only the last 1.5 inches is 4.75 in girth. I think this one is a good one to work up to the dual density one above.

This one is just 3.5 inches in girth https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=34638 and is the same girth for all it's length.

This one is 3.75 inches in girth, with some delicious bumps to drive your bum wild. See how you go, but I would say don't jump more than 1 inch at a time; the tapered one will get you there in one dildo but you may not get it all in at first. Work with it as often as you can. If you leave anal penetration to a now and again thing you will end up back at the begining each time you try. If you do it as often as you can ( every couple of days if you can, even if it's just to get it in for a minute ) at first, eventually ( a few moths) you should be able to go a week or more without feeling like you have never do anal before.

You could also work up to a bit bigger with a glass dildo, like this one at 4 inches in girth. https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32885 glasss is super slippery when lubed up, plus being hard you don't get the " I can't get it in for it bending all over the place" issue, which can plague beginers. Building up in girth solo is the best way to go in my opinion, especially if your Oh has only a bit of experience in pegging someone.

Glass in a harnesss is amazing, but it's not for someone who has never worn a harnesss for pegging before; as if you get the angle wrong your guy will be screaming.

Some of the hyperlinks had added the punctuation in. Try them now. 🀞

The dual density silicone toys are wonderfully forgiving if you get the angle slightly wrong: they have a bit of flex and also an amount of squishiness.

We have the Vixen Mustang:

https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=33670

We haven’t used it for pegging ourselves but it is very comfortable as an anal toy. Only caveat is the tendency to flex or twist if it’s not guided to start. Once in part way this is plenty rigid enough though, and has the most luxurious feel.

A good alternative is the Lifelike Lover Luxe. This one's slightly firmer but has a lovely, almost dual density feel. We have this one:

https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=41205

If the size is daunting, perhaps warming up with a set of plugs could help with relaxing and easing into it:

https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=40004

Although it mostly depends on what feels good for you, here are some of my/ our favourites, in no particular order. Alicia4Ever also recommended two of them.

https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30709 basic shape, smooth, curved, not too big or thick. My review:

https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=40335 soft, flexible, gentle. My review:

https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=34871 long, easy to navigate, but might be too thick for you. My review:

https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=35260 The dildo is not too stiff, so it feels great. This one's big, but you can get a similar dildo in a smaller size:

You might instead want to go for this set, which has 3 dildos and with that in mind is very much worth its price: https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=41309 My review

Thanks guys. I'll add them to my lists