Hi
If anyone has ever thought about either a threesome, foursome or being watched, then here are details of our experience and we hope that it might help in anyone's quest. This is not guide on how to...just how WE did it. Hope it helps.
A few months ago my OH and I decided we that we would love to be watched having sex. We started a thread on LH asking for advce and someone suggested putting an ad on an Adult website. We looked at quite a few and decided on Swinging Heaven. Let us just say, we are not swingers, just a normal couple looking for something a bit different.
We placed an ad asking for likeminded couples who like to be watched too. We were very cautious and made it very clear what we wanted and we didn't want and never gave out face pics until we chatted for a while. We also said that we would never meet anyone on our doorstep. After about 3 months we found a couple of nice 'normal' couples who were seeking similar. After emailing, swopping face pics and chatting on the phone we eventually met up for a coffee half between each other (approx 20 miles) and we all clicked.
The next meet was what we call 'same room fun', where we would watch each other in respective couples, or all have sex at the same time (again in own couples) on the bed. It was a very sexy night and felot very natural. The second time we found a couple with a bisexual female and i had always been fascinated and curious about the whole FF thing, but we never felt any pressure from the couple to engage in it, just that it was an option, however, on the night we didn't leave the bed for about 5 hours and i had my first FF experience, WOW! We always said we would never swop and we still don't, but we are now happy for the two girlies to interact, with the guys joining in with their respective partners. It feels so natural now and we don't feel any desire to evolve into full or soft swinging, just same room fun with FF interaction.
It has taken us a while to find exactly what we were after and we hope that our jouney to finding a threesome/foursome/being watched may help others find similar.
Top tips:
Know what you want and stick to it, no hidden agenda with your partner. If you want to turn fantasy to reality have a good long chat about it and if all parties concerned are happy, go for it!
Take your time finding the right couple/person, they are out there, but don't rush in, we took 3 months of emailing/chatting/deleting requests before finding just two couples we liked. Be picky.
When you do find a likeminded couple, get to know them via email, skype, mobile etc first, then meet for a coffee and if they are not right, don't feel bad saying no to them, and likewise they may say you aren't what they are looking for.
Finally, always be honest with what you're after with your OH, because when you do finally meet another couple, its an amazing experience when your all in sync.
We did have a few ups and downs, but we knew what we wanted and now meet the same couple regularly for a (sort of) threesome/foursome, depending who is on the bed and have become close friends.
If anyone would like to ask any other questions then please feel free to ask. If it's a geuine fantasy of yours, then al we can say is that it is very achievable, it just takes time, patience and open mindedness.
Hope this helps.
Two very happy people x