My gf has been dropping hints about getting blindfolded, tied up, spanked..and am am v.keen to try this.
My previous gf made me very inhibited and almost embarassed(!) about wanting to try bondage and so I've been kinda holding off trying it with my new girl. My confidence with sex has rocketed over the past few months and I have a fantasy about what I want I want to do to her and how...but just wanted to see if anyone had any tips for this slightly nervous lez!
Thanks v.much for your reply happyc! Have had a peek at your suggestions...like the thought of the Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System but it got pretty cruddy reviews. Initially the bondage tape looked a bit scary but having given it some thought ;) I reckon it would be an easy way to bind her wrists above her head.
Now all I need is something to keep her legs spread apart...hmmm.....
Something like this might be what you're looking for my lovely...
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=7960
or a bit fancier...
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=7961
Or alternatively, if you've got a metal bed frame, you can always just tie her legs to each separate bedpost!
Enjoy... v jealous of your bondage antics :)
OMG! My eyes just about popped out my head at the spreader bar...now THAT is what I'm talking about! Yum yum. Thank you Shelly!
Oh dear, am a bit naive with all this stuff, but what better way to learn?!? :D
Guess I'm a bit eeeek as to how to start it all off...we have a great laugh in bed but I kinda want to be a bit 'stern' so to speak. So need to know what I want to do before she's on her back so I dont get carried away and then just end up f*cking without any of the teasing, tying up etc...any advice??
Well, I'm no BDSM expert, I just read a lot :)
Got a little sub in me though, and I love nothing more than a stern taskmaster in bed! It might be worth planning out exactly what you want to do to her, in what order, and just sticking to the plan rigidly... so in your head, know first of all you want to get her to undress, second of all tie her up, etc etc. And if she tries to change the gameplan, that's where the stern manner comes in - you get to tell her to shut up and do what she's told!
Now, where can I find myself a stern taskmaster, cos all this chat has got me wanting one :)
yea i think i have to agree im a bit of a sub too. nothing more exciting than someone telling you off and teasing you! lol
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=1176&reviewpage=1
This was my introduction to bondage and still gets used on a regular basis (even though we've progressed to leather cuffs etc).
I envy your gf, punky!
My hubby (well.. soon-to-be-hubby) is far too mild to me. At the first sign of begging and screaming he stops. Thats when he should really continue!
He has given me a mild introduction to SM, but now I want more, and I'm not entirely sure he'll be able to give it to me... Alltho he IS talking about a hook in the ceiling. That kinda makes me go nuts :D
And he wants something like this:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=776
Now THAT makes me go all soft.... Only.. I don't really know where we could put it without bringing the ceiling down :P
I want something like this too!
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=1599
It's kind of a natural progression from this:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=5203
I love that one.. The soft side is so soft he can whack me good and hard and it doesen't hurt at all. Then he suddenly turns the paddle and I scream :P
Mustang Sally - I sure wouldn't trust a sex swing unless it was on one of those special stands they sell! They are a bit pricey - but I'm thinking of saying to the bf, let's get it for Xmas instead of lots of little things... =P
I'm not sure if I would like whips. I'd quite like to try a cane, or perhaps something like this:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13450
I'm assuming the sting is harsher because the area being hit is much smaller, but well... that could be nice!
We've now tried a hard leather paddle and I must say I like it. It stings quite a lot more but well... you know that's good. lol. Now I just have to get the one that says "slut" on it!
Never tried anything taht narrow before. Thats why I like the Nine-tails... It hits a larger area and can be used with different force and results.
I wouldn't mind a paddle, I asked my man to slap my arse during sex yesterday and he did it so lightly I wondered if he'd heard me right! Don't think he enjoyed doing that, or maybe he just needs to relax and practise it on his arm or something first.
I think I have a dit of dom and sub in me - I tend to be the one always saying what we should try out next etc. that it really turns me on to think of being tied up and told what is going to happen instead. I really want this for when I am in control (would it work with a strap on for two females?): http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=7747
I ordered this yesterday to get us started as he's expressed interest in tieing me to the bed, keeps holding my hands above my head with one of his hands during sex (it's my birthday on Monday and I want it to be a good one!): http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=1204
Really like the look of these, but am worried about not being to hold myself up well as I am not a small girl anymore after having kids!
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=2445
Yeah, that swing might take 300lbs in weight, but what about your door? Good way to rip your door off it's hinges and injure your back if you ask me...
I'm guessing you use it while the door is shut - in which case I find it hard to imagine ripping it off it's hinges, or it's one of those door frame things which clamps onto the doorframe and again - that would not be ripping any door off it's hinges. Obviously you use a decent door, not something already damaged, common sense ;)
My ex used to tie me and leave me exposed and he'd bring his mates back. They enjoyed feeling me before he caned me