I masturbate on my own but i don't know whether i'm having orgasms or not. When i ask people what it's like they say 'Oh, you will know!' but i don't know if they're just really weak. There's a slight build up with.. muscle spasms(?) and then suddenly i just feel i've had enough and it's over.
I've just brought a basic vibrator for my first time, but i can hardly feel anything. I've tried clitoral and attempted vaginal, but as i'm a virgin it hurt a bit so i might try again another time. I can feel a little something, but it's hardly anything really.
Does anyone have any advice? :)
My first second bullet was a BASIC bullet too - is yours this one? - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14881
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14881 I first started playing with myself all I knew was that it felt good, but only a little bit. It may take a while for you to get used to the sensations. Have you tried using your fingers too? This may help as knowing your own body is essential to pleasuring yourself :) A bit of lube and fantasising/erotic thoughts always helps the process too. Hope this helps.
Follow your own sensations, experiment by trying different things with the vibe, eg rubbing it along your slit, focusing on one spot, alternating, pressing on your perenium (the bit between ass and vagina) using the shower head, being naked, being clothed.....
Experimenting will give you an indicator of what feels good for you, find that and then focus in on it and don't worry about "orgasming" - just enjoy it and relax, then the pleasure will commmmeeeee.... (excuse the pun!)
I would suggest a rabbit style vibrator. I have the Love honey Mr big and it's amazing it will definately get you there. x