Do you go to bed and hope.?
Do you text her/him and let them know everything you're going to do to them?
Do you have it marked on the calendar so you both know?
Do you dress in your finest and flash a little 'skin' to stir a response?
Do you wait until your OH makes the first move?
Personally, i love to text and tell her what is going to happen to her when she returns home. Sometimes i'll tell her exactly what to do from the moment she comes through the front door, what to do, what to say, how to beg etc etc.
Othertimes i,ll pretend to be asleep in bed and then begin arousing her when she least expects it.
Do you wish your OH was more direct or do you prefer to be surprised?