Do you text her/him and let them know everything you're going to do to them?
Do you have it marked on the calendar so you both know?
Do you dress in your finest and flash a little 'skin' to stir a response?
Do you wait until your OH makes the first move?
Personally, i love to text and tell her what is going to happen to her when she returns home. Sometimes i'll tell her exactly what to do from the moment she comes through the front door, what to do, what to say, how to beg etc etc.
Othertimes i,ll pretend to be asleep in bed and then begin arousing her when she least expects it.
Do you wish your OH was more direct or do you prefer to be surprised?
Well for me I have to be patient as her hormones are a little unbalanced at the moment . So I have to wait until she is in the mood .
I know when she is in the mood as she is a bit more touchy feely than normal which can incluse footsie when we dine out . Many times she will come down in a sexy baby doll after changing or a dressing up costume .
Sometimes a bit of posessiveness can also trigger it . if she notices another woman eyeing me up .
Other things like watching an erotic movie together can also trigger a response.
This format tends to work quite well for us as I don't have a particulalrly high sex drive at this time of the year . Valentines day until the end of May are my peak times .
I think if one of us had a much higher sex drive then there could be a problem .
It really is an advantage at times mysteron. He can get what ever toys and accessories he plans on using at his digs and I can arrive in one of my lingerie sets to surprise him. That part I like. The part I font like is if I am poorly or he has been called out on an emergency and it cant happen.
I think this is possibly overthinking things here. There's never a set way in letting him know I'm down for some sex. It differs depending on mood, situation and how much time we have together. Sometimes I initiate, sometimes he does, sometimes I wear lingerie, sometimes he puts on his fancy boxers, it all just depends!
Its however the mood takes us that dictates what might and might not happen, but i know some people who are strictly 'saturday nighters', and i just got to thinking how many couples actually plan the event.
I agree that in some ways to plan is great because of having toys etc ready, but to be surprised when you dont expect it can be as sexy as hell.
We have two small children. So planning goes out the window. Sometimes they settle down quickly at bedtime others at least one is up past 9:30! Often a case if creeping in and out of rooms, checking if they are asleep and then (If we have any energy left) seeing if and what we fancy doing*.
It depends on my mood, if I want to surprise him I get dressed in something sexy and lie in wait! Or I will text / tease him during the day with different scenarios that might happen later. Get a Porn DVD lined up to switch on when we are comfortable in bed. I have layed out certain Toys that I fancy under his side of the duvet to surprise him when he gets into bed, only if he is in the mood and doesn't have to get up at silly O'clock. When he has been working in the workshop on his own I have joined him for a quickie! on the pretence of taking him a cup of coffee!
We use to be Saturday nighters (even if it didn't happen, that was the set night). Over the last couple of months that has changed and it isn't just Saturday's it's everyday unless we are tired. So there's no longer any are you in the mood questions, or sexting, or suggestions or giving our intentions. It's just a quick mention of feeling tired, otherwise it's on the cards 😊. Anyone would think we are in the honeymoon phase but we've been together for over 30 years and we are happier than we've ever been.
Lingerie plays a huge part in our sex life anyway, we are sexting a lot atm as things have changed with us but pretty much if we see each other we have sex!
Lingerie plays a huge part in our sex life anyway, we are sexting a lot atm as things have changed with us but pretty much if we see each other we have sex!