What’s a piece of bedroom advice you wish you’d learned sooner?

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Hello all! Here’s one to get you all thinking, what is some advice or something you wish you knew about sex sooner?

I’m sure everyone has that one little thing they wish they knew far sooner, whether it’s “always pee after sex!” Or “don’t forget to clean your toys!”

For me I really wish I never underestimated the power of foreplay, jumping straight into sex can be exciting but I found that it left me feeling like I wanted more. Also, teasing and non-sexual intimacy (e.g. cuddling) is a great way to feel connected.

Anyway, what’s something you wish you knew sooner?

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Pretty simple, that its a lot more fun and fulfilling when conversation is on point, lots of wrong partners and not speaking up, taught me that.

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Spend time to get her excited before trying to put it in. There are many more erogenous zones than boobs, pussy and arse.

The second one is giving her a full body massage will get you almost anything you want.:wink:

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Oh absolutely! Us girlies do love a good massage, give me a shoulder rub especially after a work day and I’ll do anything :sweat_smile:

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Talk about everything.

What you both like and need, what your boundaries are, everything.

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Anything is a dangerous word. This is not the first time I’ve had to say that :joy:

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I know I know! Maybe not quite anything but a shoulder rub would be absolute bliss :face_with_hand_over_mouth:

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Have fun! Even if you end up laughing at something silly or an odd noise. Have fun.

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Find someone who focusses on your pleasure, not their own. Find someone who wants to make you cum more than anything.

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Another vote for talking.

I wish I’d been comfortable talking about sex with my partner(s) when I was younger.

Not only is it good to communicate but it’s quite a fun bit of foreplay.

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Just say yes more often, stay safe but don’t hold back, be the best man? you can.

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If you concentrate on making her sexually satisfied she’ll (often) do the same for you.

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I couldn’t agree with this more, it’s so important to not take things too seriously (in all walks of life!) Having fun is the key :partying_face:

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Totally agree too :wink::wink:

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Welcome to the group @Marriedcouple29 .

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@Marriedcouple29 definitely laugh lol
Especially at things like the odd fanny fart during doggy lol

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@Marriedcouple29 Welcome to the forum.

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Take time to learn about yourself, understand the different approaches to things like touch, rhythm, variation. Also that those things may change over time.

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Be yourself and be true to yourself. Don’t bend and don’t break. It’s way too easy to minimise and hide what you like at the beginning of a relationship in the hope that it’ll get better, it never has for me…learned that one the hard way.

TL:DR - be selfish (in a sexy way)

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Being vocal in what you want and not afraid to just enjoy the moment with no pressure to climax or fulfil some sort of image that’s expected from sex

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