What’s a piece of bedroom advice you wish you’d learned sooner?

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I wish I’d known earlier that many girls/women just want to get laid too. I was raised by 3 dominant (oppressive) women who made me feel I had to tread carefully when it came to females. My upbringing meant I feared rejection from women, but I also feared making them feel pressured and/or uncomfortable.

Women in my country have the highest average number of sexual partners in the world (23), much higher than men in my country. It shocked me a bit when I found out to be honest … but if I’d been more confident as a younger guy, I don’t think I’d be having as much trouble with that topic now.

Oh, and don’t mix silicon with silicon!

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Quite simply, the more you give your partner, you more you’ll get in return.

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To kneel between her legs to insert my penis, NOT lay on top of her and do it!

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Mrs W here …

Ensure you both talk openly about what the other wants and then about what you want …

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The best bedroom advice to me was … “Women like sex too” (see below)

I was so reserved and repressed around women it has probably caused some harm, and at least too many years of missing out. Watching all the assertive and ‘rough’ guys have loads of girlfriends etc in their teens/20s etc. I wondered why the girls/women were ignoring me, incredibly polite and gentle etc. I now realise I must have come across as nerdy and maybe even creepy.

I was absolutely bowled over one day in the mid 90s when a lady asked me out. I known her for a while as she worked at the petrol station that I visited a couple of times a week and we’d got chatting over a few months. One quick drink and she suggested going to her flat…

We’d hardly got through the front door and she was all over me and pulled down my pants, this was the last thing a 25(ish) horny virgin needed really, a bit slower build up may have been advisable… Anyway after over a cup of tea, she said “Well women like sex too” up to this point I’d sadly never realised that.

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Have a sense of humour,use plenty of time and communicate.Be honest about any real need or desires early in relatio ship,and have fun.

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Talk, talk and talk again.

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To kneel between her legs when inserting your penis, NOT laying on top of her!

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Don’t underestimate the quiet ones!

I always thought hubby was quiet and reserved, the true definition of a “good boy”. Turns out, he has absolutely no qualms about twisting me up like a pretzel and leaving my backside a lovely shade of cherry red. Yep, it’s definitely the quiet ones! :rofl:

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Be open minded to try everything and I do mean everything at least once.

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Dont take things too seriously.
Have fun, laugh, enjoy the moment, if things go wrong, laugh it off.

We were once having a very serious session, all into it. His phone goes off with the 11 o’clock news “Megan Markle…” we bot burst out laughing. It totally killed the mood, but it was hilarious.

Needless to say sex is now known as “Megan Markle time.”

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Toys are good.

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that it’s ok to be selfish during sex. Oh and to push back when doing it doggy style :winking_face_with_tongue:

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