Where do our kinks and fetish's come from ?

Sxleksaker wrote:

I do however think that my kinks have developed because I feel a deep bond with my OH and that we have grown together in our likes :)

The same here, my wife and I have built up a long lasting, loving, carring and reseptful relationship, which has enabled us to openly comunitate are sexual desires.

They come from me .....that's it !.....

I`d guess most of our kinks come from a vivid imagination and a desire to explore!

For me I think it's influence around at the time, I have a big boob fetish and I know thats because of Linsey Dawn McKenzie who was just making it on the scene when I was 16, she was my first big crush! now I've recently started to like bigger and curvier women which has coincided with my OH putting on a bit of weight and getting curvier too! I know she has influenced my latest kink, as for all our other kinks, soom are from what my OH reads in some of her kinky stories and others seem to be whats the new thing, we try everything at least once!

Yes Man,i can see that too,i grew up on Carry On films,Benny Hill and saucy seaside postcards,plus the likes of Sam Fox and Maria Whitaker on Page 3,so the curvier woman does it for me too!

I wish I knew! I just kinda think it's like anything - why do people like certain foods and some don't? Why do i have many kinks and my hubby hardly any?
I don't know. I had a normal upbringing, nothing unusual at all. So why am I kinky? Why have I always had a thing for Police? It's weird isn't it.

I've stopped analysing now and decided to just embrace and enjoy who I am and what I like.

I wish I knew! I just kinda think it's like anything - why do people like certain foods and some don't? Why do i have many kinks and my hubby hardly any?
I don't know. I had a normal upbringing, nothing unusual at all. So why am I kinky? Why have I always had a thing for Police? It's weird isn't it.

I've stopped analysing now and decided to just embrace and enjoy who I am and what I like.

I think my kinks came, when I was a little boy at the, saw my mom stick a edema tube up my babe brother ass to unclogg him.

Just to see her put that nozzle up his ass was a real turn on for me. Ever since I been putting things up my ass. So that is where I got my kinks side from.

I know exactly where my fetish for watersports came from (drunken night out with some friends), but the rest... I've no clue!

I have for a long time had some feeling about fetishes like sm bondage but only recently started trying some, it's taken years to do because I didn't really know how the oh would feel or react to it but I did and she's slowly trying more and more things especially bondage,it's going slowly but I'm enjoying it more and more, its exciting trying different things ,I would like to try a lot more but am taking it slowly Sosa to get the oh to feel more comfortable with it in the hope she will go further to, but if she doesn't that's fine we'll go as far as she wants to and that's it ![](upload://h7LJ67OOrR57VDYrj5ZEwwHAfLG.gif)

Certain sexual experiences at an early age, I feel.

Know that some people say people can become develop extreme fetishes if they access porn at too young an age? I suspect they might be right.

Definitely experiences in childhood for me I think. I echo previous comments about an emotionally distant father. Approval/attention was scant, physical punishments were not (nothing horrific, just leg/bum smacks). I've always dated older men (husband is 14 years older but not at all anything like my actual dad) and I am definitely a sub. Classic daddy issues I guess though, happily, never to the detriment of any relationships. I've got no problem with it, more than comfortable with my sexual peccadillos.

I saved up my pocket money for a My Pet Monster as a kid and distinctly remember being more interested in (like, totally fascinated with) his plastic orange handcuffs, not to mention his somewhat inappropriately phallic nose. Always enjoyed playing 'kidnap' as a kid too. I guess the stuff I play at now is just a continuation of that theme.

Mine is from a child , simply wetting the bed , from a young age , and this is why I like watersport I guess .

I have no idea, was very shy as a late teenager have only ever slept with my wife, but have some seriously perverted sexual thoughts/kinks (where does my desire using speculum on my wife come from? or fisting her/me given I grew up without the internet)

When I was younger if I did something really naughty my dad woul can our backsides that's probably were I get my bondage thoughts of smacking and whipping from.