The KY massage oil/lube is fantastic for both massage and as a lube - we have the tingle one which smells nice and minty but isn't too overpowering, I've not tasted it as I don't use lube for oral but then again, we don't use condoms so I imagine you need something to cover the taste of the condom?
KY also do a warming version too but for some reason it's more than double the price of the tingly one, so we tried the tingle one first and it's lasting really well - and we use a lot on each other!! It doesn't go sticky either so no need to wash it off after playtime.
You mention you like the durex heat lube - how warm does it get ? - I love the idea but my hubby doesn't fancy it at all - we've been very disappointed with the durex play tingle, simply not enough" tingle" at all, the only time I feel it is after sex, I don't get any tingles during the heat of the moment! That does taste slighly sweet but you can't use it for massage unless you used the whole bottle on a small area, lol. I used a lot last night to see if it would work and although hubby loved the sensation of being really covered in it, he got no tingle either, it doesn't seemed to be activated by body heat or friction either.