I am wondering if this is more of an issue cross a lot more couples than you think !
I too suffer from this , my wife and i can spend all day exchanging dirty emails rude text discribing what I would like to do to her or I would like her to do to me , in great erotic detail ,
but sadly to many times by the time we get to bed , the children are asleep and we both have had baths We often spend time just laying in bed , Me wondering if she will make the first move . or if i should , or even if she's still wants me to forefill one of the messages ?
But what a lot of ladies dont understand , is that for men a hint could be anything ! if you want some thing the hint has to be the same as a slap across the face with a wet fish !
HINTS DONT WORK !
The same goes for men in a lot of cases im sure !
Some times its mindblowing when the quiet partner takes the initiative
I can understand confidance is a lot to do with it and if you do take matters into your own hand the risk of being knocked back has long lasting effects, but talking with your partner,planning and understanding will only help.
(I was wearing nice undies and he didnt seem to be that interested)
He may have noticed I normally do, but to him it doesnt always mean you want to be intermate ! and he may feel like if he does try to be intermate with you he may be the one being knocked back !
Maybe it might be an idea that if you can find the courage to talk with your partner plan things a little ! find some way of signalling each other that you might be receptive to there advances !
I know that if my better half come to bed with no knickerss on I am able to play ! maybe a bed side lamp thats if it left on signals you hankering for some thing more than sleep !
Nothing I can say will give you the confidance , these tips may help !