My OH is happy with me owning and using strokers but she did say she is not keen on any realistic looking ones. Partly because I think she finds it kinda weird, but partly because I think she could feel it was an attempt to substitute for her which in her mind would be because she doesn't satisfy me.
We don't use the strokers together and her opinion might be different if we did.
On the flip side, i think to myself how would I feel if she owned a realistic looking dildo that was bigger than me and curved in all the right places. Given my own hang ups, maybe a little threatened so I kept this in mind when choosing toys for myself.
Not at all. It's an inanimate object. If my partner was choosing to use a fleshlight over having sex with me (rather than in addition to having sex with me) then we'd have problems, but they wouldn't be caused by the fleshlight.
This is a toy i'm thinking of purchasing (just cant make up my mind which one).
At the end of the day its a toy whether used solely or together. A little bit of me time doesnt hurt anyone and just sometimes if your caught in the act it can lead to some serious sex.
No, it doesn't bother me at all and he's had a Fleshlight for a few years now. I don't see it any different to me using my dildo or vibrator which I like to do as it feels great. There are some times when he's not around and I need to care of things on my own or just feel something different. He has a good to high sex drive and wether he masturbates with his hand or a toy is fine with me.