So to list the devices I've tried- a bit tricky as I get an error message when I'm posting links. But I've written the name of the device if you wanted to see... I hope it posts this time because I keep getting error messages!!
OK, so to start with I went with a bullet- good but a bit too...flat if that makes sense? I came- but it was a bit awkward due to the shape which was uncomfortable to hold. It's also not vibe-pin pointed it's the whole bullet that vibes (from A/S so can't link to it on the LH site but it does look like the "Rocks of Touch Of Velvet" )
Next up (and I was experimenting with the g-spot thing here) I tried this; and also the "Power Play Slimline" and the "Tracey Cox Supersex Infinite Function G-Spot Vibrator": but really got nowhere with either- like no where, I may as well have been using that thing on a doll, I either just didn't feel anything once inside me, or I felt too tight and uncomfortable. Either way just not working out, and I wasn't going to waste my time when I was clearly getting my kicks elsewhere, so I moved on.
Next up I tried a Rabbit type device- again from A/S but looks really similar to the Mantric Rechargeable Rabbit Ears Clitoral Vibrator": mine's a bit longer and has a oval shaped part the other end of the ears. Now here I got somewhere- (but only clit based somewhere). What I got was on a list of about 8-10 functions, about 7 of them worked on me at different times- I was actually happy to stop there to be honest. The O was actually something I'd describe as quite a gentle but powerful hit, it was better then with the bullet because the vibe patterns were more varied and less intense, it's also easier to hold. The only thing I found was that once I got there, I'd have to stop for a few hours or a day or so because I was numbed out and then a bit too sore, I assumed it was the vibe because others had commented it being too strong and a bit vibe heavy. But I'm limited on cash and can't just find something else just like that so just had to switch to using less. But then one day things went from something that felt like it relaxed every muscle in my body, to feeling like I'd been shot with a tazar! I kept trying in case I just needed to go slowly or take more down time between the times I tried, be "in the mood" or with less pressure, but varying things I either I don't get there at all or I get there and it's too painful.
Ok - quite a lot for you to be processing!
Firstly - the Lovehoney Forum is broken at the moment and messages are coming up in a jumbled order, and people are not finding it easy to post. I think the IT folk are onto it...
Secondly, what you are describing sounds a bit like the start of a new love affair - but with toys! You know, instant buzz, fast results, everything perfect, then suddenly you feel sore and not quite so drawn to the object of your desire for a while, and then things settle into a gentler pace.
I'd suggest finding that gentler pace, now. You've had a good play around and I'm the same when I order new toys (48, married, 3 kids just for info) - I give them a good workout and they do the same for me and then they just don't do it for a while. They get me there and then they don't. I've found it is temporary.
So, I'd suggest picking a handful of toys (2,3,4?), some good lube and just using them twice a week for a while, a few days apart. Pop the dates on your calendar. Let your exhausted pleasure-spots recover in between each session. Start on low settigs and take your time. I've read that the average woman can take 40mins to warm up, so don't push your body into doing anything too fast despite all those reviews where people claim to climax in 20 seconds.
If you think there might be a physical problem or a more deep seated issue, then I would agree with others about seeing your GP or nurse - they really have heard everything and might be able to reassure you or offer help as necessary.