How can me and my wife explore the art of spanking more as we have only just started too .
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I suggest a few paddles and just do it as part of play - keep it safe and have a safety word so not to go too far
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As @batjamboree safe is the way to start, hands are great to begin. Try the 10 spanks then rub method. A good warm up will go a long ways as well. And just keep it fun and light. Enjoy the exploration.
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@hampo1000 Exploring starts with why you want to do this? Sex, foreplay…funishgment or just plain fun. Spanking can be an art indeed the more you find what it is to you. In my mind it can be sensually connective in ways a lot of people don’t get. Enjoy the ride it’s intoxicating.
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- You have hands. Use them. One of the great things about hands is that they provide feedback to both the spanker and the spanked. There is a practical limit for how much force most people can inflict.
- You probably have household objects that you can use but be careful! You dont want to break a wooden spoon or hairbrush and not be able to make/go out for dinner.
- Consider a slapper as an early purpose built tool. You get more “bang” for you pain because the slap part makes noise in addition to the noise of impact.
- Consider a flogger as an alternative. Floggers can be very low impact or they can sting. Super easy to adjust.
- Wen these are back in stock, consider a short handle paddle. The short handle means less leverage and more control. The wide surface spreads out the impact. It generates a VERY nice redness.
Remember, have safe words. “No” “Stop” and “Ouch” are NOT safe words. Use something like Fluggaenkoechiebolsen! No, seriously, Green/Orange/Red is simple and easy to say.
Have fun!
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Why am I not surprised to see my good friend @Spanky has commented on this thread? Nice to see you on the forum, kind Sir 
You need to practice targeting as well. Aim for the roundest part of the buttocks and stay down, well away from the spine and kidneys.
Have fun! 
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Yeah @Tenshadesandme imagine that. And thanks. Also good advice on targeting and aim.
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Someone on here gave some good advice , some time back .
They suggested using a slightly cupped hand at 1st to reduce the sting . You can gradually increase later .
Also, as has been said on here , used “safeword”. The second the safeword is used , then stop . Gently reassure the sub Then when , and only when they are ready start again , if that’s what they want .
Have a great time !
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There’s no bloody escaping for me now. We just need Master Levi on here as well and we’ll have the complete set 
And thank you, it was one of the first things I learned in impact play 
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Like you want to escape @Tenshadesandme . Besides, who suggessted this spot to me? Don’t worry I came here to behave and read some interesting threds. Kind of nice to have another spot where I have complete immunity.
Yeah, mishits suck. The target is nice and presentable easy to find and partners appreciate when the Spanker gets that.
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