My wife loves hard thrusting. unfortunately i dont have the stamina to keep going as hard as shed like. I end up coming if I go too fast. Shes only ever had clit toys and IM thinking of getting a dildo to continue to thrust with my hand after I’m done. Look at getting a 7” 5.5” girth dildo. Is that going to big too big of a step up or will she be OK with that. It’s only 1 inch - but not sure if that is a big increase
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Have you tried a sleeve or are are you just looking for a dildo?
I was thinking about the sleeve although I think a dildo and a sleeve are nice to haves. For now I’m after a dildo and just need to know if the size step up is good, or is it going to not be as am amazing upgrade and need to go bigger.
Do sleeves work? I am just wonder I wont have any sensation so whats the point of a sleeve.
It would be nice to have her channel her arousal on me though, when shes getting a bigger dick and making the fuck me face, it would be really hot if Im thrusting her while wearing a sleeve.
One inch is absolutely not too much. Women give birth to babies, one inch is not too much. Many women — myself included — even enjoy vaginal stretching. Just go slow and gentle, at least to start with, use lube, and have fun 
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Yep while you will lose the feeling in your cock because of the sleeve the mental joy from seeing her taking a big cock and the enjoyment of that will have you excited and trusting away. Of course this all assuming she is enjoying it. If she isn’t and it is not comfortable for her then it is a no go for you!!!
My wife enjoyed it when we used a big sleeve and the joy on her face was enough for me. Well also the view of my “bigger cock” sliding in and out of her drives me insane!
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Agreed with @Pogo69 that sleeves are a great tool to have in toolbox. Dull sensation a bit for longer lasting, get a visual enjoyment from watching it in and out, and can do some other positions (Rear, standing) that otherwise are prone to slipping out more often. In the right positions I can even cum with my wife while wearing the sleeve, but usually after she cums she likes me to take it off so I can fill her when I cum. Which is its own enjoyment as after using our girthy sleeve she’ often gaping and it’s a very sexy feeling to go into her stretched out and wet pussy after she’s cum.
But I also love a good dildo for use when I’m going down on her or with her Womanizer, so both are good. Get both!
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An inch on the inside tends to be more of a step up than it looks outside but ultimately perhaps ask her or discreetly hint if it’s to be a surprise toy 
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Oh yes I love taking it off and then going into her gapping pussy. Strange if you think about it because normally you want it nice and snug but the thought of her being bigger because of that big sleeve she just enjoyed is a huge turn on.
I image this is probably similar to guys who like to be cucked and follow the other guy. But cuckholding is not for me or her.
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Which sleeve do you use? I’m looking for a different one because the one I have is so difficult to get on that at times I start to lose my erection. The one I have is not from LH.
We have these from the LH Mega Mighty series - 2 Extra Inches, 3 Extra Inches, Extra Girthy, and 1 Extra Inch Silicone. Here’s my hot takes:
- 2 Extra Inches was our first and favorite for regular play for a long time, but we did just have to throw it out. The last few times I’ve taken it out of the toybox it was wet/had a slimy feel to it despite being put away dry, which makes me think it must have had some sort of reaction with another toy somewhere along the way that has compromised and I was no longer comfortable using it.
- Extra Girthy was the next one we added and is VERY fat. She REALLY has to be warmed up for this one, but it’s been also a fun addition. Plastic seems to be all clear.
- 3 Extra Inches we honestly haven’t even put to the test yet, for some reason. But when it arrived I was disappointed that it seems to be the same size as the 2 Extra for all practical purposes, no matter how I measure it. And yet, because it’s a different ball-loop design, it also seems floppier. Go figure.
- And the Silicone is new to the toybox and not yet tested together. I ordered as the replacement after throwing out the original. Excited to have a silicone extender - it’s very soft and very easy to turn inside out for cleaning and even easier to put on than the plastic ones. The head is a little softer and the whole thing is a more pleasant texture of silicone - hopefully it doesn’t suck up lube like some toys.
I’ve regularly dropped into the “Pander to Me” thread some of the competitor options in silicone and size options that are more accessible than the premium Vixskin items. I’m glad they’ve started adding some silicone options for the more body-safe conscious shoppers among us and hope there’s more to come!
Thanks for the recommendations
I was actually thinking of going straight for the extra girthy because on the reviews someone said they are 6" and 4.5” circumference which is exactly my size.
The 2 extra inches, is slightly slimmer and probably a better starting point, LH have a mistake on there, the canal diamter is supposed to be the inside diameter i think, they list it as 2 inches, but the description states it’s 1.25 inches. I think the 2 inches is the external diamter or just the 2 inch length they put down as the canal diamter.
In any case, I was wondering how would the 1.25 inch internal space feel on a 1.5” diamter dick, is that constricting or will the sleeve stretch?
Any tips on getting your cock into them? With mine I find even with lube I get an air tight seal which creates an air pocket between the head of my cock and the sleeve making it at times impossible to slide it on. On of the reasons we don’t use it more often is because of the difficulty of getting it on. Mine looks similar to the ones you recommended. I’ve thought about piercing a small hole in it to permit the air to escape but I’m not sure that it is wise to break the surface of the material.
That girthy one looks intense but it says the girth is 6.5 inches. I’m at about 6 myself so will it add that much more? I’ve never measured the girth of my sleeve when wearing it, I guess I should do that.
I found the 1” has a decent amount of feeling. Kind of like wearing a big condom to be honest.
The 2” I can’t really feel much but she definitely can because it’s still like a very big toy
The extra girth one is generally too big for her. I could only get it in about half way
I found it was best to have range of sizes, as going straight to the biggest would have been too much
Most of the toys depend on how hard you are in the first place as to how big they are. Some of them are quite rigid so can force the blood out. It was definitely more of a workout to use them as well
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@pogo69 I turn mine as “inside out” as I can (usually just folding over/rolling up an inch or so on the end) and then squeeze/squish the end of the sleeve and release I insert and get to the squeezed bit. It’s not perfect but it does keep most of the air out and creates a little suction to pull me in the rest of the way. I do find I need a good quality erection to get it on, doesn’t like flaccid or semi and isn’t rigid enough to be functional without being hard (not a strap-on).
Re:girth - I wrote in a comment somewhere that my perception of the regular Mega Mightly sleeves is that the plastic wall is just under 1/4 inch in “resting” state, where the girthy one is more like a 3/8 - 1/2 inch wall. It is soft plastic so it will stretch and thin as it goes, but not that much. All that to say, yes it will add significantly to your girth. The measurements they list are based on the resting state, not in use. It will stretch and add to what you’ve got. I haven’t measured with it on, but it’s fat.
@DefinatelyBi - these are definitely stretchy soft plastic and I wouldn’t worry about it being too constricting at your stated dimensions. I’m 5" girth and have no trouble with these. They can be a little finicky to get on with air pockets etc, but I’ve described my approach. They do require more lube because they do suck up natural lubrication and get sticky faster than a cock. If your partner is not a fan of chafing, just keep that in mind.
Again, in general - highly recommend. I would love for LH to have an even wider selection of sizes and shapes in the silicone material. The new 1" SIlicone I received is a very nice quality from what I can tell, but I’d love for something more like the Mega Girthy or 2 Extra Inches by Lovehoney and not spend the Vixskin kind of money.
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Thank you. You’re correct that it does take a good erection to get it on. A little soft and there is no way I’m getting it on and the struggle that results causes me to lose the erection all together. But when it does work, and I get it inside of her…. Well it is all worth the effort.
Again what about the view of her taking a big cock is so appealing to guys? It’s not me feeling I’m huge that does it, it is seeing her taking a bigger size cock that drives me crazy. And the memory of the second time we used it when I asked if she wanted to use it again and the speed and enthusiasm of her answer made me happy. I couldn’t get it on fast enough.
I’ve got a few thoughts that I’m going to try to bounce through as it relates to what I’m into. First, I do like the space of “feeling bigger” with a sleeve on. Actually, so far we’ve only used clear sleeves, not skin colored. So there’s automatically a separation of “this is not my penis” but at the same time I do feel the extra weight of it pulling down and swinging around, so there’s a little bit that I think is connected to feeling bigger somehow.
Another thing that’s not explicitly connected to the “bigger” side of things but is a huge part of my understanding of the sexual relationship is that I derive much pleasure from giving and witnessing my wife’s pleasure. I had understood this to possibly be a notion called compersion, but after googling to confirm there’s maybe a more specific understanding of that from a polyamorous lens, so maybe just variation on sympathetic joy (google also gave me “mubita” as term from Buddhism that represents that). So anyway - I get off on my wife’s pleasure. Sometimes that’s more voyeuristic (watching her masturbate), sometimes it’s more prideful (going down on her and feeling quite accomplished after reading her signals well and successfully edging and riding her orgasm without being pushed away for overstimulating).
Watching her use toys, including dildos and sleeves that are bigger than me, ties into that “taking pleasure from her pleasure” by revealing in a sense a form of pleasure capacity or potential pleasure, as in the difference between kinetic energy and potential energy. Kinetic pleasure then would be the witnessed and observed parts of our sexual practice that is known and experienced: we practice the motions, pleasure results, we enjoy. Playing with limits whether they be bigger dildos, stronger or varied vibrators, or BDSM implements/techniques I think reveal the existence of “potential pleasure” - pleasure we haven’t explored, remains untapped, but available for the enjoyment to come.
Another aspect is the psychological piece of playing with the idea that your partner is so sexy that others want to be with them. We’re terminally monogamous but enjoy exploring the fantasy of sharing, swapping, and groups through our dirty talk and play together. Playing with the notion of my wife being desired by the big cocks is part of it. I don’t think it verges into cucking - I’m not interested in being shamed or told “oh this is better than your cock” but some comparison play is part of the fun.
And then there’s probably a most basic explanation of visual stimulation. It’s visually appealing to watch my wife expose herself playing with toys, bringing herself pleasure. Bigger dildos are like stage props in a way, put in play to be more noticeable, more obvious, easier to watch. A longer dildo takes a longer time to draw in and out, more time to watch it unfold. A wider dildo spreads her lips and makes them more obvious, more accentuated, more to watch and see.
Anyway. Those are my thoughts. Thanks for reading. 
Would love to hear others’ perspectives.
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I think it will be fine - go for it!
I bought a girthy king cock dildo earlier this year - deliberated over the 7 or the 8 inch girth - went for the 8 in the end and absolutely love it - its now one of my favorite toys - and i think i could go even bigger - i love the feeling of fulness 
Do you actually insert all 8 inches in? I would have thought girth is more important and a 7 inch girthy toy is better than an 8 inch with same girth.
I’ve gone for the pensi sleeve route the canal diamter/length and the external girth I need meant that I had to go 8 inches and I’m really worried I’m going to miss the thigh to pelvis slap or ass to pelvis slap that I really enjoy when penetrating. I love the noisy and I’m sure the smack from both of our bodies smashing must do something for her too.
I’ve seen in porn films where they dont smash bodies presumably the guy is just too long
My wife has always said texture is better than size. We have a massive smooth dildo that she likes to feel full but 90% of the time goes for the smaller 6” as it is veined and she prefers the feel of the bumps when using it.
A Bit risky. With sex you gotta understand that once you open something up its hard to put it away.
Imagine I find out wife us actually a size queen and age orgasms consistently with a bigger dick. Have I cucked myself?
Had a chat about things with my wife. The sleeve is ordered and will be a surprise. Ill get her warmed up. Make excuse to leave the room and come back with the sleeve on.
Anyway. I had a chat with wife about making things equal with sex. I am giving with sex and do a lot of reading, listening to podcasts and trying new toys and techniques to please her.
But she needs to pull her weight a bit and do things to please me. And some times sex needs to be just about pleasing me and making me come.
Sort of heads up that if the sleeve goes down too well, it can only be used part of the time. So we’re not always using it every time