Got talking about adultwork today at work and wondered if anyone ever actually used escorts and the like? Having never had to pay for sex i was surprised by how many people i knew did....what's your thoughts, would you pay for a particular service if your oh wouldnt perform?
Not me personally :)
I had a GF in Finland who paid for her law degree and uni studies by being a dominatrix... She never had sex with clients though as they didn't pay for that... They paid for the S&M they couldn't get or wouldn't admit to wanting, when at home.. She was an interesting person to date in personal life, and not into S&M at all...
It's not something id consider to be honest as I'm happily married. If circumstances were to change then who knows. I would like to think we will be able to keep each other happy.
I work away from home a lot and spend quite a bit of time in hotels and it's depressing to witness the goings on with married men and women at the bar who are obviously escorts. I know a lot of colleagues who use escorts when they are away and they see nothing wrong with it.
adidan wrote:
Got talking about adultwork today at work and wondered if anyone ever actually used escorts and the like? Having never had to pay for sex i was surprised by how many people i knew did....what's your thoughts, would you pay for a particular service if your oh wouldnt perform?
Not all people who use escorts do so because they have no other choice. It may be the case that they visit because they have a fetish they are not willing to share with a partner, but they may also just not want to have a relationship, due to other commitments, or time constraints. They may want a professional to help them gain confidence, lose their virginity with a pro or they might not even want sex, but companionship for an evening then go back to their lifes. So many reasons, I listed just a few.
I am female and I have a fantasy of hiring an escort....blindfolding my partner, sneaking her in and then she begins to massage him (he thinks it is me until I start stroking him too....four hands...what the?? (There is no sex or anything involved in this fantasy....just the mindfuck of four hands touching him unexpectedly) lol
Yeah it had crossed my mind! I doubt I would though and for only one reason... because I am too tight with the money! lol
Edit: and obviously the most important fact: that he has not consented to being randonly felt up by someone else and it would kind of ruin the fantasy to ask him beforehand.
My!...that does sound actually quite a good bit of fun..... Jumping out of our comfort zones are hard... And tbh it would be hard to judge if anyone will go for it.... If he has mentioned having sex with others as well at the same time... I think you might be on for a fantasy night😉😇
I've never had to pay for it and I'm happily married, but if anyrhing happens to that, I read in the paper today that men 'become sexually invisible' at 39, and since I'm 58 I'd probably have to pay for sex if I were left on my own.
Trying not to worry about that ...
MrPink wrote:
I've never had to pay for it and I'm happily married, but if anyrhing happens to that, I read in the paper today that men 'become sexually invisible' at 39, and since I'm 58 I'd probably have to pay for sex if I were left on my own.
Trying not to worry about that ...
If this was true, women wouldn't swoon over Jonny Depp! (He's 51, btw)
Just sayin'.... :P
I have never done it but don't think there is anything morally wrong with it - so yes would do it.
Agree! Jonny Depp is gorgeous! <3 lol
I'm a year off becoming sexually invisible if mr pink is to be believed. What a depressing thought.
I am sorry all this talk of working people hiring escorts, when I last looked they don't do Escorts any more. It's Focuses or Mondeos if you want a Ford last one I hired was an Insignia but that's a Vauxhall.
I have a friend in the city who is a good looking lad, but very very dedicated to his career, and doesn't want a GF or spend time hanging out in bars to pick up a 'Random', so hires escorts instead for a bit of company and sex once a fortnight... he seems happy, so do they... Who am I to say that it's not right.. Oldest profession in the book once Adam bit that Apple...
MrPink wrote:
I've never had to pay for it and I'm happily married, but if anyrhing happens to that, I read in the paper today that men 'become sexually invisible' at 39, and since I'm 58 I'd probably have to pay for sex if I were left on my own.
Trying not to worry about that ...
Don't you believe it my crush is 56, I'd take him any day he is gorgeous , but seriously I'm married it is sexless but no way would I use an excort, I manage with crushes and toys.
Lovehoney - Jess wrote:
MrPink wrote:
I've never had to pay for it and I'm happily married, but if anyrhing happens to that, I read in the paper today that men 'become sexually invisible' at 39, and since I'm 58 I'd probably have to pay for sex if I were left on my own.
Trying not to worry about that ...
If this was true, women wouldn't swoon over Jonny Depp! (He's 51, btw)
Just sayin'.... :P
Mmmm Johnny Depp, that man gets finer with age. As does Robert Downey Junior!
I've never paid for sex or company. That doesn't mean I think it's wrong. l can completely understand people who have busy careers or travel a lot paying for company & sex or people who just don't want a full time relationship.
Remember that with sew workers, the client is not paying for sex, but for a companion. Sex only happens if both parties consent.
As a former escort and now a Pro Domme (it suits my sadistic side better), many clients came to me for things other than sex. Some just wanted a friendly chat for example. Also there's what I call collectors, people who see escorts as a hobby and try and see as many different ones as possible. The list goes on.
I must admit, the clients who came to me and saw me as more of a sex dool, I told to leave. =)
Also, age doesn't matter when it comes to clients. I've had clients who've been in their early 20's then I've also had older ones. Some have already got sexual partners etc too =).
MrPink wrote:
I've never had to pay for it and I'm happily married, but if anyrhing happens to that, I read in the paper today that men 'become sexually invisible' at 39, and since I'm 58 I'd probably have to pay for sex if I were left on my own.
Trying not to worry about that ...
Articles like that make me laugh, I'm nowhere near 39 and I kind of know that sexually invisible feeling. Some people only become sexually visible when they have cash to flash around. I'd like to see where that article gets its facts from.
As for paying for sex, most arguments against it I hear from people who have virtually open access to sex. They sound like a rich person who doesn't need to work due to wealth telling me to quit my job because the pay is rubbish. If I wanted some sex badly I'd go to De Wallen and think of my critics as unempathettical. At the end of the day it's nobody else's business.
I never have, but worked with someone who openly admitted to using escorts. If that what you want its ok, as long as the worker has choosen their career, and not being forced into it by drug use or trafficking.
sexually invisible' at 39, love and sex dont know your age. I was 44 my lovely wife was 20 were sill in love happly married and kids and have lots of fun