Hi,
I've been reading these boards for a bit, anyway I'm a male in my twenties and have been in a loving relationship for almost 3 years now.
I love her to bits and we have a very happy life, including a great sex life. The one thing I would like to see more of however is a bit more 'kinkier' sex life. When she's really horny, drunk, or both she talks about fantasies like having a 3some, anal play etc. but actually advancing to it is another story. We have had some really wild sex, mild bondage, used anal toys on both of us, some fantasy dress up and we have always both really enjoyed ourselves and she usually comes out of the experience talking about the best sex in a long time and so forth.
However most sessions involve a little oral, spooning/missionary/doggy which is all good and well, but the kinky sessions usually are 1-2 months apart and the really wild stuff which she talks about really wanting to do doesn't appear likely to happen.
I would never want her to do anything she's umcortable with, and forcing things like this is never a good idea, however since I know she always likes it when we take it a step further and talks about wanting to do more I feel like I should look for some clues to get her to be more open. She was a little shy to begin with, and it took me months to convince me to go down on her for the first time which she can barely live without today.
I just got back home from a trip which involved going to a sex store whilst really drunk and buying a few items which involves some of the fantasies we have discussed, including a strap-on, some anal toys etc.
Is there anything I can do to get her to be willing to open up more so that these really wild sessions can occur more frequently, and getting her to move even further into things she talks about wanting to do? Or are these session maybe more fun when rare, and some things better left as fantasies?
I would really appriciate some feedback on the issue! :)