Hubby and I have been together forever, married for 8 and have children. Before we met I was more promiscuous and he wasn’t. I am recently regaining my sex drive after years of contraception and sleepless nights with children. I’d like to introduce an element of bdsm but I don’t quite know how to go about it. Any suggestions on how to bring the subject up would be great. He works loads and I’m going back to uni, we live with my parents too so time alone isn’t forthcoming! I have booked us a night away next month just to be able to see each other. Thanks in advance :)
How about starting small with some bondage tape for your night away?
Hi there, I have posted a couple of Lovehoney guides below which I hope will be helpful to you. They also include videos from the fantastic Jess! 
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/bondage/buyers-guide/bdsm-for-vanilla-lovers-bondage/
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/bondage/buyers-guide/bedroom-bondage-explained/
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/bondage/buyers-guide/keep-safe-bondage-techniques/
Start small. Try hand straps or handcuffs. It might be a good idea to start of with his favourite thing ie oral, you on top etc. This may make him more up to the idea as he will be getting something in return. Hope you get in well.
Scorpius12 wrote:
Hi there, I have posted a couple of Lovehoney guides below which I hope will be helpful to you. They also include videos from the fantastic Jess!
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/bondage/buyers-guide/bdsm-for-vanilla-lovers-bondage/
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/bondage/buyers-guide/bedroom-bondage-explained/
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/bondage/buyers-guide/keep-safe-bondage-techniques/
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Great links, which will contain plenty of helpful advice and ideas for your bondage play introduction.
Well done 'Scorpius12', I'm sure this will be helpful to loads of others on here. 😉
Communication about your ideas with your OH is important too, you don't want to overwhelm him.
Talk about your desires and see if he'd be up for just introducing one or two things into your next sex session.
A blindfold and a tickler is always a good place to start, and then work up to fulfilling your fantasies from there - if you think he is enjoying it.
Good luck. ☺
Aww hun, open communication is always key for sure. As others have said above with some really fab links to get you started. Blindfolds are always good, maybe even handcuffs or rope to tie up. That's probably not so out there. X
I would strongly advise you speak to him about it before your night away. As you get so little alone time, springing something he may not like on him might not be the best idea. If you can’t talk privately easily, consider using text?
To start with I would suggest maybe using a tie or blindfold and mention how you feel could enjoy heightened senses then maybe introduce some ropes or cuffs to take another Sense and go through the motions at first
Thanks everyone! We do regularly talk about our sex like (although until recently it’s been somewhat non-existent due to various external issues!) and I will talk with him again I just didn’t quite know *how* to bring it up. Some great suggestions and I’m about to look through the links posted- thank you! X