Interesting update and great to hear this arrangement is working well for all. Out of interest is it a deliberate decision not to share too many details with your partner - I imagine many men in his position would enjoy hearing about the details. Or is his motivation more on enjoying idea of you being free spirit and being able to have lots of sexual freedom alongside your relationship? Also, is part of the appeal on ‘reclaiming you’ afterwards or is that not a factor?
Sorry for all the questions, these types of ENM arrangements and how a couple navigate them do sound very interesting.
Has the affair helped your marriage or is the affair more about the new sexual experience? Would you suggest to your husband to have one as well. Glad you are enjoying it and I hope it helps the you out.
Our marriage is fine and there is no way I’d risk it.
But we’ve both said recently that the affair has made things a bit “fresher” lately. I’m loving the extra social aspect as well as the sex and inevitably it means some nice new clothes and undies.
I think he’s wonderful for letting me do it, so I suppose that’s part of it.
I know lots of married women my age tend to dip their toes in the water of extra marital relationships and it can cause problems but with my husband knowing it honestly feels totally normal and healthy.
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When people have an affair it is because they are not getting something at home. Whether that is social, feeling needed, appreciated, or even sex whether it is not enough, or good enough. The key is to know why you feel the desire to be in an extra marital relationship. I hope it works out for you. There is no way that my wife or could do this, but that is our relationship not yours. Good luck and enjoy it.
Yeah, talking to friends who are having affairs or who have had one, there is something they wanted, but nearly all have totally happy marriages and the ones who were unhappy the affair led to a divorce, like me with my first marriage.
I agree that I am looking for, or needing, something but I think it is all a positive dynamic. It is possible that I just don’t suit monogamy and my husband is luckily someone who accepts that, partly because of how our relationship started.
It is certainly working at the moment and if that changes I would end it straight away.
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