Age related changes in your perspective and your interest in sex

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I think around age nineteen was the peak of my sex drive and the focus of my desire was very much on the physical aspect of it at that time.

During my mid twenties sexual pleasure became less important to me and my sex drive started slowing down, and by my mid thirties my interest in having partnered sex was mostly about the mental/emotional experience of that. Now I can to go for long periods of time with no real sexual desire and have other things on my mind but I still consider masturbation as one of life’s great pleasures. I am not sure how I feel about my declining interest in sex. In a way I think it’s sort of liberating—with some insecurities ebbing away, and having more interest in important things in life other than sex.

I wonder how others view their own sexual identities and how they can change over our lifetime…

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I’m nearing 40 and would say my interest is sex is still at its peak.

The only changes are now (compared to when I was in my late teens and early twenties) I’m more aware that there’s more to sex than just penis in to vagina and thrusting.

Lots of toys, lots of fore play, oral, anal, pegging etc., is something I wish I’d understood more or at least been more open to then.

As for my sexual identity/sexuality, back in my teens, I’d have said 100% straight. Now, let’s say the worst happens and I’m no longer with my partner. After a grieving period, could I see myself with someone of the same gender? Sure, if they were the right person for me.

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I think that as we have gotten older as a couple our sex drive hasn’t altered that much, if anything without the worry of pregnancy we have become more active and adventurous.

Through LH we have introduced a plethora of toys, some which we have kept as they worked for us, others we have not.

As we approach our sixties, I think that we will continue to have an active sex life, perhaps car sex and the positioning that entails will become a thing of the past, but there are other areas to explore.

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I would say I had an average libido up until the age of around 43/44. I’m now 49 (male) and my sex drive has increased significantly.

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As a woman my sex drive was nil until age of 25 - then it was more a chore than pleasure

At 40 my mind was turned around and I became very horney - wanting sex most days

At 45 I found mental sexual play for fun and certainly heightened pleasure- such as dominance and role play and especially dirty talk

At 52 - very sexual and still very horney ..

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Mrs bustywife and myself feel our sex life has got better over the years. We both love sex as much now as we did when we met 30 years ago, although its mostly oral we enjoy now as mrs will have multiple orgasms

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Mid 30s total drop off. Rekindled our interest through toys and embracing pleasure through masturbation in our 40s. This led to experimenting with different things and opening our relationship up to others. In our 50s now , very sexual and very happy

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I had a talk with my OH today about changes in libido as we get older. She is post menopausal, her libido has declined. Even though she enjoys sex, her drive means shes happy with once a week. I told her my drive has not declined, if anything, it’s gone up. The reason I told her is because I got started late in life, I love sex, and the grim reaper is looking over my shoulder, and I want to enjoy the intimacy as much as possible, the clock is ticking on my 75 year old body.

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I had a healthy sex drive but nothing crazy up until now. Now that I am in my 40’s my drive has increased a lot. I put some of it down to being happy and relaxed at this age.

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