Am I bisexual if I'm a cuckquean?

So for those of you who do not know a cuckquean is a woman that enjoys watching her boyfriend/husband have sex with other women who are younger, hotter than her. A cuckcake is the female version of a bull that is younger, hotter and has bigger tits than the cuckquean. the cuckcake’s job is to make sure the cuckquean knows how inferior she is.

In some situations the cake might never actually be seen by the cuckquean. The cuckquean may just hear about her husbands affairs. Perhaps getting letters or dirty panties.

And other times, the cuckcake might be there, involved in the direct humiliation of the cuckquean. Often with the cuckquean watching, preparing, or cleaning up after the cake.

Sometimes the cuckcake is quite dominant – leading the humialition and actively degrading the cuckquean.

Cuckqueaning is an actual kink that lots of women from the kink community enjoy. Some cuckqueans enjoy the humialition and degradation from it and some cuckqueans enjoy just watching their boyfriend/husband have sex with other women who are younger and more attractive than them.

So my question to you is if I enjoy being cuckquean and humiliated by my husband by him ordering me to clean up his cuckcake for him does that mean I’m Bisexual now or no?

Would u ever think of being with another woman on your own? Do you get turned on by other women? Or is it just the fact your man has been there?
You could be bi, but why put a label on it? Just do you enjoy yourselves :grin:

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I don’t have any desires to date or sleep with other women on my own because im not attracted to women. Im only attracted to men.

The reason why I enjoy being a Cuckquean for my husband is because I love being humiliated and degraded by him.

What a question @Kalethelegendarysupersaiyan i do not have a clue unfortunately but welcome to the forum. I am sure you will get many good answers on here.

If you’re not sexually attracted to women then you’re not bi.

Edited to add, the lady doesn’t need to be more attractive than the quean for it to be a cuckquean scenario. You may prefer it that way, but its not a requirement.

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True not all cuckqueans prefer their husband’s cake to be more attractive than her.

Some cuckqueans just like knowing that other women desire her husband and some cuckqueans just like it when their husband tells her that his cake is the better lover than her.

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Welcome to the forum.

I try not to kink shame and I have definitely heard of cuckqueaning before, but I’m afraid your post made me feel a bit squick. I have nothing against cuckqueaning and however people want to kink (even you and your husband) is their business, but I would be careful about applying harmful generics to all cuckqueans. For some such as yourself, it may be hot to be told that you are inferior up to the cuckcake, but for some others I should imagine it could be quite damaging. FWIW I am a sub switch , love being humiliated by hubby and I would love to see my him with another woman, but having her think (or act as though) she’s better or hotter than me would be a bridge too far.

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The aftercare that me and my husband have together is so amazing because I know at the end of day he will always stay with me instead of his cuckcake because we love each other.

I don’t believe cuckqueaning has to have a humiliating or degrading twist, some might get off on being lucky to have an attractive partner pleasing another lady, some might just enjoy watching.

Monogamy is the norm, there are very few terms, probably coined by the ununderstanding monogamous majority (of which i am part of) to describe all the various deviations from the mainstream norm.

So long as you’re enjoying it consensually, it’s all fine.

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Sounds like you’re trying to convince yourself with that yarn.

I agree with this, how many times can you be told this before you believe its true?

I can understand the appeal of watching your partner with another person, but without the ‘cuckquean element’ bc that side of it wouldn’t be for me. A club environment would be how I would want to see it.

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100%. I had a poly ex who used to put me down, “negging” as they call it these days, I guess because he couldn’t believe how lucky he was. I started to beat down on myself until I realised I wasn’t the problem here, he was. I soon got shot of him after that.

To me personally, playing these sorts of mind games is a recipe for disaster. I know a sub who has lived immersed in the sex slave lifestyle for 8 years - who, dare I say it, regularly publicly beat down on other “part-time” submissives with her holier-than-thou attitude, and much to my chagrin - and is now deeply considering leaving the lifestyle to find her real worth. I’m happy for her, but it goes to show again what I’ve always believed to be true - these kinds of things are not substainable.

As an aside, I can proudly say that, though I am submissive to him, my husband sees, encourages me to see and actively promotes my worth. Without him kicking my ass and making me believe in myself and my capabilities, Ten Shades & Me likely wouldn’t exist.

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I’ve never thought of it like that but I think that’s just it to me, I’ve always thought my husband is attractive and sharing an amazing and attractive man with another woman? I mean, why wouldn’t I want to? It’s compersion; I’m happy when he’s happy, even if it doesn’t involve me.

What I find more interesting is the peculiar paradox your statement has made me realise: sexually, I am non-monogamous - I am open to threesomes, foursomes and the such because I believe my husband and I are both amazing people and I would fully understand why someone - or even another couple - would feel some sort of sexual attraction to either (or both) of us. However, I am polyamorous and demisexual - I couldn’t have casual sex with someone I didn’t feel something emotional (naysay even romantic) towards, rendering me, at least at this time, monogamous. Humans are truly fascinating creatures.

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I admire your confidence, I just hope you are correct.

8 years is such a long time and aftercare is massively important. I don’t understand the sex slave lifestyle, and therefore I struggle to see the kink and appeal in it. (I’m very aware that there are things that I enjoy, that people may not understand either, although I’ve explained the why to my wants, somewhere on the forum).

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Just a gentle post.

There is rarely only one way to do a kink so if something works for you, that’s great but be careful of generalisations.

Also, we all have our yucks and our yums. It’s fine to talk about both but if it’s not furthering the discussion at hand, maybe this isn’t the thread for it?

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I agree. Aftercare, trust and good communication are probably THE most important things.

I am a service submissive myself, but then that comes from a desire to please - to be useful, however that is, but only to people who truly appreciate me and my inherent usefulness (granted there’s a touch of self-debasement there, to consider myself “useful” :joy:). I’m also a masochist: I enjoy receiving intense sensation and pain. I don’t relate to sex slaves, try as I might; to me there is a whole lot more that a submissive has to offer than just their body parts, and it saddens me that some sex slaves don’t seem to see that. I know that it’s not my place to interfere in other’s dynamics, but I’ll be damned if it doesn’t annoy me when I see things that maybe aren’t quite so healthy going on.

I think everyone has their quirks and their kinks, I know I have mine too and that’s totally cool. Again though, we have to make clear about sweeping generalisations: I’ve been in the BDSM lifestyle 18 years now and I’ve never heard anyone say anything about the other qualities or behaviours of non-cucked partners in cuck relationships before this thread.

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