So as a couple we occasionally like to dominate each other and a few weeks ago this ended up with C (wife) dominating K (Husband).
First the first time it went in the direction of anal play with C using her fingers and a butt plug on K.
We both enjoyed it and got talking about doing more in the future like pegging.
We were just looking for advice from anyone that has experience, such as what type of strap-on, length of dildo, best position (for comfort), etc.
Also C also found it awkward to to have her fingers in K and try to rub his cock at the same time. Is there a practical way to do this?
Advice from male and female perspective is welcome.
Thank you
Edit - I just discovered I can search previous topics and there is alot of previous ones about what I have said so looking through those now. Apologies for repeating a previously talked about topic
For pegging start small with lots of lube and go slow. For the answer of the finger and other objectives just practice and find the best position for you both. Because it all depends on the angle of the dangle and what you expect from it.
Just remember lube and when you think you have enough add more because it will help.
The best way to start is with a butt plug training kit. Me and my wife started with the novelty glow in the dark kit from Love Honey. It doesn’t have the largest plugs you can get in the kit but once you work through to the biggest that is it, I was able to take a dildo comfortably and enjoy my self.
With the other half using fingers or toys, if you want to stimulate the prostrate you need to rub towards the front more than straight in. But please work on it slowly and find what works best for you both. There is lots of articles on this forum that if you search for will give lots of information.
If you brand new to anal, definitely don’t assume your asshole will except a toy of similar size to a penis right away. Experiment with a few buttplugs of increasing size and see what you can comfortably take. Slowly work up to larger toys eventually trying a dildo. For successful anal, you need to be craving a toy or cock in your ass and mentally wanting to be filled.
Get used to anal by yourself first before trying with your partner. Learn your body and how your bum responds to stimulation and penetration. Masturbation is perfect for this as you get to take your time and learn what feels good. Have lots of lube on hand as well as wipes etc. Go slow and give time for you anus to relax.
Lastly, pay attention to your bowel movements and wether you may want to clean out first. Have a poo we’ll before play and take the time to check that your are empty before engaging in a session. Check with a finger and if you feel some matter, you can douche to clean out (optional). Just remember with anal, shit can happen. Have some wipes, tp etc handy for quick cleanup and move on. Gloves (latex or other material) can be used to increase hygiene if you wish.
We have a harness with a vibrator for her, adds a little something for her enjoyment at the same time. We never had any success with the strapless type.
I prefer something smaller, less girth, so she can go to town, with no risk of any discomfort. Rather than her reaching around, if in doggy, she pegs away from behind, holding my hips with both hands whilst I use a vibrator on myself.
We usually end up coming back to and using a 6" dual density one. I store it curved / bent over, so it takes on a downwards bend when in doggy and aims towards the prostate area.
Always use lots of lube, we put a condom over the dildo too which makes clean up much easier and removes the worry about any cleaning up if there is a code brown.
Try and find one that will curve towards your prostate, if it is fixed and has an upward curve, it’ll only aim towards that area in a face to face position, not from behind if that’s your preference . This is the one we use, so the dildo can be added any way round you prefer
This was the one we have and still use, although not as frequently as I’d like to TBF (mainly due to busyness and not much time to ourselves )
We’ve found it works well for starting out in terms of getting to grips with the practice of anal play as well as starting off with a smaller size to get used to at first. I’d say we’re still at the stage of using this one just due to us both becoming more comfortable with each other in doing it, as we want to enjoy it (which we have donne so far). And as others have said before…plenty of LUBE!!!
Enjoy trying it out!! And let us know how you guys get on!!
So yesterday late afternoon i got dressed up in a lh lacy dress with a slit up the back and stockings. We had the air conditioning on in the bedroom and i was stood in front of it with my back to it and i got a blast of cool air up my bottom. I said “ooh that went up my bum” and hubby said “i will if you want to” to which i said “you know my feelings on that if i do then so do you”. He knows about my passed issue with anal and i have tried with a very small butt plug, as i would like to be dp’d with a butt plug, but without success. So i was very surprised he even suggested it, as we all know you cant just do it on the spur of the moment, and its also not something he wants to try on himself as he says its “not right” for a bloke.
I might try again with a butt p!ug if he was willing to try but be always backs out.
Thank you everyone for the help. Based on all your recommendations I have just ordered a harness, several dildos and a bullet so should all arrive by the weekend for us to test out.
Your husband is missing out on some real pleasure. Trying a toy up the bum says nothing about ones sexual preferences nor does it make him non masculine if that is a concern of his. Prostate stimulation can be amazing and can lead to pleasure difficult to experience any other way. It can lead to multiple orgasms if he’s lucky which can open his eyes on a whole new level of pleasure and climax.
Yes we have and both love it. Pegging is now a weekly occurrence and general anal play has become normal in all our sessions. It’s certainly added a new dimension to our sessions.
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