Emerald sounds to be enjoying it too 😀😉
PrettyKitty24 wrote:
. I wanted to ask.. does anyone have any recommendations for vibrating dildos that are good to insert anally. Nothing too big but I'd like something longer than a butt plug to be inside me for some foreplay fun ;)
Just catching up with the thread!
My recommendations include:
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32757 - when I first started I found my anus relaxed when my pussy was in pleasure mode, now it's not an issue but definitely good to start with, plus you have both options to try out if you want.
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=23981 - has more length than buytt plugs but not the width
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=27935 - a good starting point, slim line so not too girthy whilst you start for your length desires also!
lulu' wrote:
Reading these posts with interest. OH desperate for us to do anal. I don't mind stroking there or when doing doggy he can even slightly insert a finger. He really is keen to try (it's one of his real fantasies). I want to make him happy but after a bad e perience with OH when we tried and he was, well, let's just say over enthusiastic. It hurt - badly and since then ive had a psychological block really. We have bought starter butt plugs and anal lube and the poor things are sitting languishing in his wardrobe. When turned on and horny I think yes, i want to try this. But then when it comes down to it i literally freeze. Any advice tips welcome. I wonder if my refusal subconciously is im afraid he'll prefer anal to pv? And what if i dont like it and oh loves it and prefers that?
Lulu - it made me a little sad reading this :(
Anal is a scary thing when you first start and some people love it, some hate it, some like to throw it in every now and then. Trust is also a big part of it because you are letting someone play with a part of your body that wouldn't usually be played with in that fashion. And with your previous experience, you do have the lack of trust in a way if that makes sense?
I would actually recommend exploring butt plugs etc on your own first before letting him get involved. Take some time to play with yourself and explore what you do and don't like, then share that with him. If it is something he genuinely wants to try, he will do so in your time and at your pace. But as Kitty mentioned, don't do it just because he wants to, you should not allow yourself to be pushed into something that you aren't happy with.
MissTerror wrote:
lulu' wrote:
Reading these posts with interest. OH desperate for us to do anal. I don't mind stroking there or when doing doggy he can even slightly insert a finger. He really is keen to try (it's one of his real fantasies). I want to make him happy but after a bad e perience with OH when we tried and he was, well, let's just say over enthusiastic. It hurt - badly and since then ive had a psychological block really. We have bought starter butt plugs and anal lube and the poor things are sitting languishing in his wardrobe. When turned on and horny I think yes, i want to try this. But then when it comes down to it i literally freeze. Any advice tips welcome. I wonder if my refusal subconciously is im afraid he'll prefer anal to pv? And what if i dont like it and oh loves it and prefers that?
Lulu - it made me a little sad reading this :(
Anal is a scary thing when you first start and some people love it, some hate it, some like to throw it in every now and then. Trust is also a big part of it because you are letting someone play with a part of your body that wouldn't usually be played with in that fashion. And with your previous experience, you do have the lack of trust in a way if that makes sense?
I would actually recommend exploring butt plugs etc on your own first before letting him get involved. Take some time to play with yourself and explore what you do and don't like, then share that with him. If it is something he genuinely wants to try, he will do so in your time and at your pace. But as Kitty mentioned, don't do it just because he wants to, you should not allow yourself to be pushed into something that you aren't happy with.
Totally agree with this, if it is not something you want for yourself as well as him then it is unlikely to ever be successful. Exploring on your own really is the best way to start and if you still find you don’t enjoy it then don’t worry about it, lots of people don’t and we are all individuals with our own likes and limits. Definitely explore on your own first and communicate what you learn to your OH. I'm he will respect your wishes and will just need to deal with your limits, you really won't get anywhere with anal unless you want to do it.
Thanks so much for your reply. It is quite sad really. I swither between thinking I might want to try when we are having a session...kind of i get so carried away Id pretty much do anything, you know when you're caught in the moment and nothing else exists? Well, I can take the finger and quite enjoy it when done slowly and gently... I suppose I'm giving mixed signals which I suppose isn't fair in a way. The suggestion of experimenting solo makes total sense then that way I can learn if and what i like. Thnx so muchMissTerror wrote:
lulu' wrote:
Reading these posts with interest. OH desperate for us to do anal. I don't mind stroking there or when doing doggy he can even slightly insert a finger. He really is keen to try (it's one of his real fantasies). I want to make him happy but after a bad e perience with OH when we tried and he was, well, let's just say over enthusiastic. It hurt - badly and since then ive had a psychological block really. We have bought starter butt plugs and anal lube and the poor things are sitting languishing in his wardrobe. When turned on and horny I think yes, i want to try this. But then when it comes down to it i literally freeze. Any advice tips welcome. I wonder if my refusal subconciously is im afraid he'll prefer anal to pv? And what if i dont like it and oh loves it and prefers that?
Lulu - it made me a little sad reading this :(
Anal is a scary thing when you first start and some people love it, some hate it, some like to throw it in every now and then. Trust is also a big part of it because you are letting someone play with a part of your body that wouldn't usually be played with in that fashion. And with your previous experience, you do have the lack of trust in a way if that makes sense?
I would actually recommend exploring butt plugs etc on your own first before letting him get involved. Take some time to play with yourself and explore what you do and don't like, then share that with him. If it is something he genuinely wants to try, he will do so in your time and at your pace. But as Kitty mentioned, don't do it just because he wants to, you should not allow yourself to be pushed into something that you aren't happy with.
Thanks too for your reply. What you said makes sense. I suppose I have to figure out my reasons for wanting to try - is it cos I'm also curious about it or to 'grant' his wish. I definitely agree with your wise comment about solo play and then seeing what i like and if i like it. Your input is really appreciated.AmyA wrote:
MissTerror wrote:
lulu' wrote:
Reading these posts with interest. OH desperate for us to do anal. I don't mind stroking there or when doing doggy he can even slightly insert a finger. He really is keen to try (it's one of his real fantasies). I want to make him happy but after a bad e perience with OH when we tried and he was, well, let's just say over enthusiastic. It hurt - badly and since then ive had a psychological block really. We have bought starter butt plugs and anal lube and the poor things are sitting languishing in his wardrobe. When turned on and horny I think yes, i want to try this. But then when it comes down to it i literally freeze. Any advice tips welcome. I wonder if my refusal subconciously is im afraid he'll prefer anal to pv? And what if i dont like it and oh loves it and prefers that?
Lulu - it made me a little sad reading this :(
Anal is a scary thing when you first start and some people love it, some hate it, some like to throw it in every now and then. Trust is also a big part of it because you are letting someone play with a part of your body that wouldn't usually be played with in that fashion. And with your previous experience, you do have the lack of trust in a way if that makes sense?
I would actually recommend exploring butt plugs etc on your own first before letting him get involved. Take some time to play with yourself and explore what you do and don't like, then share that with him. If it is something he genuinely wants to try, he will do so in your time and at your pace. But as Kitty mentioned, don't do it just because he wants to, you should not allow yourself to be pushed into something that you aren't happy with.
Totally agree with this, if it is not something you want for yourself as well as him then it is unlikely to ever be successful. Exploring on your own really is the best way to start and if you still find you don’t enjoy it then don’t worry about it, lots of people don’t and we are all individuals with our own likes and limits. Definitely explore on your own first and communicate what you learn to your OH. I'm he will respect your wishes and will just need to deal with your limits, you really won't get anywhere with anal unless you want to do it.
lulu' wrote:
Thanks too for your reply. What you said makes sense. I suppose I have to figure out my reasons for wanting to try - is it cos I'm also curious about it or to 'grant' his wish. I definitely agree with your wise comment about solo play and then seeing what i like and if i like it. Your input is really appreciated.
Hope you figure it all out and don't forget that we are all here for any advice, support and if you get into it, many recommendations! x
I second what 'MissTerror' said! Also, it's great for everyone that we are all here to support and advise each other. Thanks 'MissTerror' for having great insight and advice regarding this slightly 'taboo' subject, I think it's awesome us women (and men!) can talk about it on the forums. I'm a recent 'newbie' and have already learnt so much positive information about a healthy, happy sex life. This is thanks to everyone on the forums.
I do hope lulu' finds confidence and happiness in whatever decision she makes 😊. Have a nice weekend all x.
My lady and I decided to try anal, even though neither of us had ever tried it before. I have to say that we have become very close emotionally, and have developed a very trusting relationship. We took it slowly, just using fingers, then small plugs. Both of us used plugs, small to start with, gradually moving onto medium sized plugs. My lady tells me my penis is of large girth, which fills her vagina and made anal insertion difficult at first. After lots of plug play we finally managed it. My lady said that she felt a certain amount of pain, but it was good pain! With patience, lots of lube, taking entry very gently, we have reached a point where the sensations that both of us experience are so erotic and emotional. We didn't expect such amazing feelings, that feel different every time.
For anyone tempted, talk about it first, ensure hygiene is always scrupulous, practise with small, then medium size plugs. The rewards are beyond belief!