I love having anal sex, it's a completely new sensation and although a delicate subject with some women, it's defo worth trying. I guess what I'm asking is does anyone enjoy anal sex too? and apart from using plenty of lube, any suggestions for anal toys? I'm particularly eager to use my purchase of anal beads, but never tried these before. Any tips and advice and what you (and your partners) enjoy, would be kindly appreciated! Thanks a lot 😉. I am female, married and have tried anal sex with the hubby. He thinks it can be messy, but doesn't mind fulfilling what I want.
Cool, it's great to hear your into this too!! I sometimes prefer it to vag sex aswell, which quite surprised me?! I guess variety really is the spice of life!!! I can't wait to try new toys like some u suggested. I will introduce stuff slowly too, don't want to overwhelm hubby 2 much! Thanks for the positive advice 😉. Have a cool day.
Beads feel amazing if you pull them out (I like quickly) at the point of orgasm. I think I am actually starting to prefer anal play, often use a plug when using a toy vaginally, and I find that when using a dildo anally I can keep thrusting through my orgasm which makes it more intense whereas I clench really hard vaginally. Try using g a vibrating love egg whilst enjoying some bum fun, I love it!
We haven't been into anal for that long. It took a lot of practice and patience to be able to get where we are now and to actually enjoy it. We found anal plugs are a huge help. Without them I wouldn't feel half as relaxed as I do now. We have managed to go from a beginner plug to a large.
I found it painful and uncomfortable taking my husband in my bum. That was until we tried butt plug play. We started with the LH beginner and then moved up in size. It took some time but we both kept practising as he wanted me to peg him. I have to tell you that it was worth it because I can now take him without pain and he is on the long and girth side.
As said above, butt plugs are amazing for me. First time I tried anal it was fairly painful and uncomfortable but with using butt plugs and gradually getting bigger now it’s fine ☺️ My Oh is on the bigger side too so that’s a big achievement for us, even so I have actually just ordered a really large butt plug because I love using them so much for when my Oh is away.
We've played with this and had light penetration, but I'm confused by her tbh. To start off with I wasn't allowed in this area, but over time she slowly eased up. A finger, a stroke etc Now she loves a finger and a butt plug Sometimes she struggles to get turned on, but I feel her light up as soon as I start touching her there. I'm fairly big, and she hurts when we do normal sex sometimes, so there's a bit of a fear that if I don't fit in her vag, I certainly ain't going to squeeze into a smaller hole. We've done some light penetration and I didn't go far so I didn't hurt her, plus I came real quick due to the excitement. She asked me a week ago for anal, but she was tipsy, and I don't know if it was to please me or the alcohol, so I declined. It's like butt play is a big turn on for her but is frowned upon because its her butt, and that's dirty. So a seesaw of excitement and shame perhaps? She struggles to talk about sex so that ain't helping either. In short, it definitely excites her and she loves a finger or a plug, but I think it'll stop there, as I do think she'd like penetration if we slowly worked towards it, but I can never say whether it's just to please me. And tbh if we did go down this path I'd need to know for definite that it's her driving it, not just her trying to make me happy?
Thanks Amy, it's cool I know what to do with the beads now, really looking forward to trying this new sensation. I hope to become more familiar with butt plugs etc. too. I have a love egg, but what's the best method of using it to achieve lovely orgasms!? I have got a few new bits and bobs in my collection to try and hopefully will have some positive results to post soon lol! 👠
You are defo going the right way about things, easing in gently and it's great that ur missus is willing to experiment, even if only a little in this area. You can't help your size for starters and believe it or not, it is painful for a lot of woman having vag sex due to the OH's size. When my husband first tried with me, I just went with it as I'd never done it before and wanted to see what it felt like. I did indeed enjoy it, even tho it hurt a bit! You just need to use plenty of lube (which I'm sure you know!) and start off going in gently. Once the rhythm is established (you'll know from the good reaction your getting from her), just pick up the pace and carry on! Trust me, once ur in a rhythm, it does feel really nice for the woman and some even prefer it to vag sex at times! The best thing you can do is communicate with each other. Explain to her not to b embarrased about talking about anything to do with sex with you and most importantly of all have fun exploring what you both like! Tell her if she needs to stop, to shout a safety word you both know means STOP! or just simply use the word STOP! Hope this helps you 😊. Have a cool weekend too!
Emerald269 wrote:
Thanks Amy, it's cool I know what to do with the beads now, really looking forward to trying this new sensation. I hope to become more familiar with butt plugs etc. too. I have a love egg, but what's the best method of using it to achieve lovely orgasms!? I have got a few new bits and bobs in my collection to try and hopefully will have some positive results to post soon lol! 👠
Butt plugs are fantastic for making you feel fuller and tighter when you have either your partner or a toy vaginally but I don't think I have ever orgasmed from a plug alone, except maybe the desire rimming one https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=37759 (although they seem to have changed the name to rotating for some reason)
I guess a love egg works like a reverse plug, giving you a fuller feeling while you take something else anally 😂 again I haven't orgasmed from a love egg alone, most people just enjoy the teasing, couples, public play aspect of it. I originally started using one during anal play because it got me relaxed and aroused but it makes it more intense because of the whole double penetration feeling and as you play anally the love egg will help add pressure to your g-spot.
Theres a lot to explore, hope you enjoy your new bits and bobs 😂. This has made me realise I haven't used any of my beads for a while, I'll have to get them out again soon!
MrGoodGuy wrote:
We've played with this and had light penetration, but I'm confused by her tbh. To start off with I wasn't allowed in this area, but over time she slowly eased up. A finger, a stroke etc Now she loves a finger and a butt plug Sometimes she struggles to get turned on, but I feel her light up as soon as I start touching her there. I'm fairly big, and she hurts when we do normal sex sometimes, so there's a bit of a fear that if I don't fit in her vag, I certainly ain't going to squeeze into a smaller hole. We've done some light penetration and I didn't go far so I didn't hurt her, plus I came real quick due to the excitement. She asked me a week ago for anal, but she was tipsy, and I don't know if it was to please me or the alcohol, so I declined. It's like butt play is a big turn on for her but is frowned upon because its her butt, and that's dirty. So a seesaw of excitement and shame perhaps? She struggles to talk about sex so that ain't helping either. In short, it definitely excites her and she loves a finger or a plug, but I think it'll stop there, as I do think she'd like penetration if we slowly worked towards it, but I can never say whether it's just to please me. And tbh if we did go down this path I'd need to know for definite that it's her driving it, not just her trying to make me happy?
Any more questions or advice required, don't hesitate to ask 😃. Emerald269.
Emerald269 wrote:
You are defo going the right way about things, easing in gently and it's great that ur missus is willing to experiment, even if only a little in this area. You can't help your size for starters and believe it or not, it is painful for a lot of woman having vag sex due to the OH's size. When my husband first tried with me, I just went with it as I'd never done it before and wanted to see what it felt like. I did indeed enjoy it, even tho it hurt a bit! You just need to use plenty of lube (which I'm sure you know!) and start off going in gently. Once the rhythm is established (you'll know from the good reaction your getting from her), just pick up the pace and carry on! Trust me, once ur in a rhythm, it does feel really nice for the woman and some even prefer it to vag sex at times! The best thing you can do is communicate with each other. Explain to her not to b embarrased about talking about anything to do with sex with you and most importantly of all have fun exploring what you both like! Tell her if she needs to stop, to shout a safety word you both know means STOP! or just simply use the word STOP! Hope this helps you 😊. Have a cool weekend too!
I think it sounds like she defo wants to do it as she wouldn't let you anywhere near that area otherwise! The best thing to do is discuss both your feelings together and ask her outright "Are you honestly wanting to do this for ur pleasure or just to please me?" Good Luck 😉.
Sry everyone, just getting used to quoting and replying x.
Thanks Amy for your really helpful advice on using 'love eggs' at the same time as anal play. I don't even know where to begin with mine and would love to work up to orgasming via. double penetration, which I already know will be a challenge 4 me. So if anyone can share how they managed to reach this 'amazing sounding' experience, I would love to know the secret, and hopefully get some positive results myself! I've not used a love egg before and was worried it may get lost!! Lol x. Thanks.
Highly recommend playing with temperature because you get an extra sensation from it that can just send shivers. Glass or steel can be cold or warm and switching from a toy that has been stretching you to a temperature change is a really nice touch for your body.
If he's worried about mess, you can still his mind a little with making sure you are clear as possible (you can get douches but this is a lot of pre planning and can put you off potentially). Definitely build up, good lube, just make sure he doesn't go full rabbit and you ease in to it! The position definitely helps too depending on how he is built, some guys I've found it a better feeling in doggy style, but others on my back with my legs strapped up so toy around with how your body sits because it can affect comfort!
Things like this https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=27246 can be nice little additions to your toy box, especially if he is wanting to get some extra pleasure also!
Reading these posts with interest. OH desperate for us to do anal. I don't mind stroking there or when doing doggy he can even slightly insert a finger. He really is keen to try (it's one of his real fantasies). I want to make him happy but after a bad e perience with OH when we tried and he was, well, let's just say over enthusiastic. It hurt - badly and since then ive had a psychological block really. We have bought starter butt plugs and anal lube and the poor things are sitting languishing in his wardrobe. When turned on and horny I think yes, i want to try this. But then when it comes down to it i literally freeze. Any advice tips welcome. I wonder if my refusal subconciously is im afraid he'll prefer anal to pv? And what if i dont like it and oh loves it and prefers that?
Hi lulu', I think you should only try it if YOU really want to and when you feel comfortable otherwise you'll feel like it's another bad experience if you've already had a psychological block. Like you've said when you're really turned on just stick to allowing a finger in and if you really enjoy it you can always up it a notch with plenty of lube and a small probe or butt plug then take it from there. If it's really uncomfortable then anal might not be for you. I started off with fingers inside and then we used a small slightly pointed (clitoral) vibrator actually and then full anal penetration. I prefer anal more than he does!! And for your OH I think some men just want to try it once as its such a 'naughty' thing to do but it's just different to vag sex so nothing to worry about him liking it more. I wanted to ask.. does anyone have any recommendations for vibrating dildos that are good to insert anally. Nothing too big but I'd like something longer than a butt plug to be inside me for some foreplay fun ;)
We really enjoy anal but as people have rightly said you have to build up slowly and listen to your body. If your OH is worried about mess try this works very well : https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31239 Butt plugs are great to get you in the mood or fun outside!
Hi 'MissTerror' and lulu'! Thanks for your replies 2day. Love the advice from 'MissTerror' regarding playing with temperature - not tried this aspect of anal before. Heard excellent reviews about the notorious 'glass dildo', defo gonna try this sensation. It's so much fun getting advice, especially from other women and also putting the suggestions into action. Thanks for the link, will check it out for sure!!
Lulu', so sorry you had a first bad experience with anal, I still have to pre-prompt my hubby to go in gently! - you think he'd take this on board by now! Lol. But, seriously, defo communicate with ur other half and tell him how you feel and the fact that you 'freeze' as the first time you did anal was not pleasurable for you (even tho it was 4 him!) Great advice from 'MissTerror' regarding lashings of lube and easing in gently. I have troubles with vag sex sometimes, but my hubby is a patient man. You know your man loves you, so he should respect you too and be a bit more gentle with your body. I hope you manage to overcome the trauma from the last time. The best thing to do (which I do) is tell it to the OH how it is, whether he likes it or not! You're important too! Best of luck and let me know how u get on. Will add u both as friends if ok xx.
Forgot to say, as a woman I love anal. Emerald269 I agree, it's a completely different feeling but I find it really pleasurable and all of my girlfriends cringe when I mention it- it really is a delicate subject! I too would love to take any advice on toys to use and I think I'm going to take the plunge and get a pretty glass butt plug!
Hi all. I'm being very slowly and lovingly introduced to anal. In the past it's been an absolutely no go area, but my SO lives me to put all sorts of things up his bum, and is very gently getting me into it. You really have to be very trusting and relaxed. He will stroke me for ages, then he can feel when I'm starting to open up and soften. I doubt we'll ever get to letting him actually fuck me anally, but the play is getting to be nice, especially when penetrating each other at the same time. I tried on my own with a bendy double ender, slimmer at one end, and gave myself the most amazing orgasm, quite different from a vaginal alone orgasm. I used the slim end in my butt, and a glass dildo vaginally. Great combination!
Thanks Gran for highlighting some awesome sounding products, will defo look into these and it's cool that you and so many other women are also into anal play, there's nothing to be ashamed of at all (I personally don't think!!). It's great that so many sexually empowered women can talk about this issue. As long as u communicate well with the OH, it can be a wonderful experience. Looking forward to trying double penetration with a good toy one day!
I don't think it's a 'disgusting or vulgar' act. I totes agree with 'PrettyKitty24' and am glad she finds enjoyment in it too! If u can't chat 2 ur friends about it, at least u can chat on here, thanks to Lovehoney! x.
Thanks for bringing this topic to light everyone! All the best 😄.