Hi everyone ... I haven't being here for a while but I want to ask question. I'm married and with 1 kid, second on the way. My wife is never the usual sexual woman looking for action (opposite to me) ... when she got pregnant she told me I was hurting her while having sexual intercourse so we stopped doing it ... but then, after having zero interest for anal sex in over 10 years I've being with her, now she asks me to finger her ass while she blows me and she watches porn (anal porn). I bought some vaseline to make it smoother and after a while she goes doggie (she loves it) and I start playing with my cock on the asshole.
While fingering her I can get 2 fingers in her no problem at all but when my dick is going for it, everything is excuses ... I think she may be afraid I can hurt her, but I don't want to at all ...
What shall I do ... basically I don't want the hormones to go and then no anal for me !!! I love anal !!!
It depends on so many factors. I'm pregnant (currently in labour), and anal sex has been hit and miss depending on how the hormones are affecting my pelvic floor, to where the baby is positioned. Sometimes it feels tighter, other times looser, sometimes less painful, sometimes more. Some women also get piles durign pregnancy so this can cause an issue for anal sex.
Basically communication is key, so just talk to your wife and see how she feels at the time.
It depends on so many factors. I'm pregnant (currently in labour), and anal sex has been hit and miss depending on how the hormones are affecting my pelvic floor, to where the baby is positioned. Sometimes it feels tighter, other times looser, sometimes less painful, sometimes more. Some women also get piles durign pregnancy so this can cause an issue for anal sex.
Basically communication is key, so just talk to your wife and see how she feels at the time.
Prize for commitment to the forums to Lady Ness.
Hope it has gone well.
It's entirely possible you're already causing her some degree of discomfort, vaseline isn't exactly slippery enough to make for a good anal lubricant. It just isn't comfortable. I'd highly reccomend getting a bottle of anal lube, you can get ones like this that are relaxing (but not numbing) which may help her mentally too:
Have you tried talking to her about it out of the moment? Could be helpful to talk about it calmly and see if there's any compromise to be made? It could be that she is open to full anal sex but you're just taking it a little too fast, after all 10 years of no interest and now she's letting you put your fingers inside? That's progress! She could just need more time to get used to that level of sensation before taking even more :)
If she is accommodating 2fingers without discomfort why not (with nice lube) slide her favourite bullet in for a few moments see if this gets a good response, if it does a few slides in and out then in with your cock.
If she is accommodating 2fingers without discomfort why not (with nice lube) slide her favourite bullet in for a few moments see if this gets a good response, if it does a few slides in and out then in with your cock.
If she is accommodating 2fingers without discomfort why not (with nice lube) slide her favourite bullet in for a few moments see if this gets a good response, if it does a few slides in and out then in with your cock.
worth trying
Not worth trying unless it has a flared base!
Just to confirm we do not recommended inserting anything into the anus that is not designed to be, items can easily 'get lost' and I imagine that would put her off anal sex completely.
Please only use items with a flared base or a wider handle/finger loop than the toy for anal play.
I've actually been reading into this topic in the last few days!
As she's pregnant be sure to use a good lube with no additives or parabens, I'd recommend Pjur for silicone based or Sliquid Sassy for water based.
Keep in mind that her blood volume will have increased now that she's pregnant so be careful - any tears in the rectum or to existing injuries/hemmorhoids etc can bleed a lot more than usual. Take it slow. Definitely don't get anything with benzo/lidocaine for numbing, as pain plays that role in alerting us that something is wrong!
And of course all the usual procedures when it comes to keeping it clean during anal sex - really obvious stuff but she'll be more prone to infections both vaginally or in her urinal tract.
Most of all though congratulations to you both on your bundle of joy! (and also your new-found enjoyment of anal play!)
Agree with the lube. Like avoid some with added hormones in as these can cause infections and labour, etc, even if they say they are natural.
Don't expect anal sex too soon after the birth too, as the muscles and lower spine really do become stretched. If she manages birt without tearing etcing, it's still likely that it'll take just as long for her body to heal so it's ready for anal again as it does for vaginal intercourse.
Okay a little advice please do not use vaseline use a body safe lube sillicone is long lasting and great for anal. Last year i was pregnant with our 2nd and i crave my mr's cum i know it sounds a bit discusting but i used to want to suck his cock all the time and wasnt happy until he came in my mouth i craved this sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. We also did anal whilst i was prgnant however i starte dbleeding and we just agreed to stop anal whilst i was pregnant. It is weird how your horemones change whilst prganant i was alot mor ebody confident and felt very sexy whilst i was pregnant 2 days before i gave birth i dressed in a slightly see though outfit and i have to say i felt great that has changed now and i hate my body but being pregnant sometimes causes you to be irrationally horny. I am actually glad she has chosen to explore anal play enjoy it wghilst it lasts because it may change when she has the baby. take it slow and dont rush anything slow and alot of lube do not force it in slowly insert it into her and if it begins to hurt her stop as this is very uncomfortable and can lead to anal tears. as previously stated you can used toys such as butt plugs or a dildo to help her relax and adjust to the size but ALWAYS use a flarred base toy the anal canal is like a vacuum and can easily suck whatever you are using up right into it and this will lead to an embarassing trip to a&e x