I've recently stareted having anal sex with my partner but i want to know the best way to loosen my ass so it doesnt hurt. We usually start with lots of lube and fingers and then he puts his penis in slowly, keeps it sill in there, and then moves back and forth slowly until I'm ready for proper sex. I love anal and want more of it but my partner is pretty thick and sometimes it just takes too long to get it ready, or it just hurts too much to try. Even when we are successful if i want to do it again after its too sore to try.
I want to be able to have anal much more regularly, a bit crude to ask but will my ass always be this tight or does it eventually get looser so its not so much hassle to get started?
I have some beads and a butt plug but theyre more for pleasure than for training, can anyone recommend any lube/ toys to help me get a bit looser down there?
Thanks
My girlfriend wanted to have anal sex for the first time about two years ago. At first, she was really tight, but with some practice she managed to really loosen up. We were using mostly lube, fingers and patience.
As far as I'm concerned, only practice can help you really loosen up. If you wish to "train" yourself in order to be able to get looser, here's what I would do:
The shape of this buttplug is pretty perfect for this: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30702
You don't want to take the whole thing in your butt, but the shape can help you take something wider and wider down there.
Another intersting buttplug is this one: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=6406
Concerning lubes, KY Jelly is always a good choice but our favorite is this one: http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=6717
We use it as our regular lube, and it is much better than every other lube we have tried.
Yes, is it uncommon to suggest to use it for this purpose? Or maybe your message, Purring-Pussy, wasn't directed to mine, sorry ^^
nastygrrl wrote:
I've recently stareted having anal sex with my partner but i want to know the best way to loosen my ass so it doesnt hurt. We usually start with lots of lube and fingers and then he puts his penis in slowly, keeps it sill in there, and then moves back and forth slowly until I'm ready for proper sex. I love anal and want more of it but my partner is pretty thick and sometimes it just takes too long to get it ready, or it just hurts too much to try. Even when we are successful if i want to do it again after its too sore to try.
I want to be able to have anal much more regularly, a bit crude to ask but will my ass always be this tight or does it eventually get looser so its not so much hassle to get started?
I have some beads and a butt plug but theyre more for pleasure than for training, can anyone recommend any lube/ toys to help me get a bit looser down there?
Thanks
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nastygrrl wrote:
I've recently stareted having anal sex with my partner but i want to know the best way to loosen my ass so it doesnt hurt. We usually start with lots of lube and fingers and then he puts his penis in slowly, keeps it sill in there, and then moves back and forth slowly until I'm ready for proper sex. I love anal and want more of it but my partner is pretty thick and sometimes it just takes too long to get it ready, or it just hurts too much to try. Even when we are successful if i want to do it again after its too sore to try.
I want to be able to have anal much more regularly, a bit crude to ask but will my ass always be this tight or does it eventually get looser so its not so much hassle to get started?
I have some beads and a butt plug but theyre more for pleasure than for training, can anyone recommend any lube/ toys to help me get a bit looser down there?
Thanks
Hi,
Check the links below:
For anal training:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15697
The hole at the head to relieve the pressure which normal builds up which means you can wear the butt plugs for longer. As this is a dilator set, it differs to other butt plugs which you say atr for pleasure. Progress with the size as you feel better.
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30942
This one is just amazing. Once the head in, thrust the dildo in and out to help you relax and get used to the size. When you feel comfy enough with it, then get the head in and out.
Lubes:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13084
This is a better lube.
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17607
This is a classic which I have noticed female pornstars use.
I hope this helps
I love anal and thanks to hours and hours of play and buying and wearing lots of butt plugs I've had lots of fabulous anal sex with a very well endowed partner, so just keep on putting things in your bum, Nastygrrl! :D
I think the secrets to good anal sex are lots and lots of lube, enjoying it and getting very turned on before you actually start having sex. I really like OscarRomeo's suggestoin of an anal training set and actually, just found a twin of my favourite buttplug ever - the largest one in this set http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=22285
You might well try something like this, which is midway between a plug and a dildo and looks rather lovely for warm ups
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16725
after which you can graduate to this one, which is a favourite of mine and a good comfortable plug to wear for a while to relax you. And get you really turned on and ready for a session.
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=8566&reviewpage=1#customer_reviews
I will say that it's not great for wearing during sex for DP, as it tends to slip out. Though that can be highly amusing, and a good laugh always helps relax me for anal sex. :D
Thank you both OscarRomeo and OpenMindedAlice for the great advice! Both of you had actually suggested plugs and dildos i already had in my wishlist so i will definitely be snapping these up! Looking forward to experimenting with different shapes and sizes :)
You're most welcome. Anytime. Keep me posted.
Yes, it would be good to know what works for you. Enjoy yourself. :-)
If you're already able to take a reasonable size plug / dildo and are looking to stretch a bit more, I absolutely love this toy:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17540
The head is about 2" diameter, but it's great for stretching as once the head's in you can use as little or as much as you want. So far I've only managed to get about 2/3 of it in me, but it feels SOOOO good!!!