I love have my ass played with and really want to try anal sex but I’m tight so I need to try something to help me open up.... if that makes sense I have a butt plug so was wondering if I wear it for about an hour a day would this help me get looser and make Sex easier? Of course I use lube and clean out before I play, just wondering if there’s anything you can do to help
It's not something I know a lot about but it's a very popular subject on here. I'll link a few threads that be able to help out.
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/1732853-anal-play/
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/1732226-new-to-pegging/
Hope this is useful 🙂
+1 ^^
^+1 I would also suggest a good anal lube, this can make a huge difference as lubes fit for anal are slightly thicker and have some desensitising agent in them to numb the stretch feeling. Your anal muscles will always go back to how they were so you can’t really do much with toys to make you “loose”. But if you have regular anal play and use different size toys you will slowly be able to handle bigger and thicker. Just remember it’s a walk not a run so don’t expect to go from a finger to a mammoth size dildo the next day, it takes time and patience and you need to go at your own pace so try and not get frustrated.
The main thing to realise is that you are not actually stretching anything but just learning to relax a muscle you don't have direct control of. So learning to accept a butt plug or dildo anally is like learning to wiggle your ears (but a lot more fun obviously). Frequent practice is the thing. I have noticed that my ability to accept a dildo diminishes so if it's a week or so since we played I'm almost back to square one. Conversely, if I know I'm in for a pegging tonight and prep by putting a 50mm plug in then a few hours later the 45mm diameter of my wife's favourite weapon slides in effortlessly.
agreed, take your time with it, going from smaller to bigger things in your anus can be tricky, so use lots of lube, take your time,m work yourself from small to big. but the biggest thing is breathe deeply and relax. the only time pain is ever really caused is when the muscle tenses and spasms. just relax.
hope this helps, i love anal play myself and hope you can get the full benefit sometime soon.
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Thanks for the advice guys, all taken on board
I agree with what everyone else has written.
There are a couple of tips I can give for anal.
Firstly......relax! That's the most important part.
The first couple of inches are the easiest.
Then you hit the muscle inside.......it's used to pushing things out.
That's when you need to take it slow.......don't force it......let it slide in naturally.
Many people find poppers help (though not everyone likes them).
Take it slowly......if it begins to hurt....stop & relax & pull out slowly. There's nothing worse than a toy (or anything else) pulling out at a rate of knots!
My husband had to work his way up in size before he could comfortably that a realistic strap on. Starting with a small butt plug he bought larger ones and then a small dildo. I also used these and with practice anal with my husband became comfortable and now we both indulge with out worrying about pain etc. Practice makes perfect.
Ive ordered my first dildo for anal use. Only ever used fingers so quite excited about trying when it arrives. .
Aimee99 wrote:
Ive ordered my first dildo for anal use. Only ever used fingers so quite excited about trying when it arrives. .
Enjoy!
Once you get used to it, you'll love it.