I have often wondered about that issue for a long time. Why is that? While I haven’t given a ton of oral sex to other men I have tried it and found that cum at the back of the mouth essentially bypasses the taste buds if that is the issue. Of course, there can be gag reflexes involved here too. I can see it if it’s perhaps a newer relationship and transmission is a concern. Hopefully you don’t misinterpret my post @tenshadesandme. It is a legitimate curiosity for me. Why take a load only to spit it out?
It’s the opposite for us.
My wife - when she’s in the mood - loves to give me BJs. I’d have to say, she is an expert too!
I absolutely love to go down on her - but she is really not into it.
Haven’t been there for a year 
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I love giving my wife oral, but she doesn’t return it to me as she is totally against it. Which is a bit frustrating, but you have to accept someone’s boundaries and she gives me loads of pleasure in other ways.
The complete opposite for me 
I love giving him blowjobs I also love receiving oral but much prefer to pleasure him 
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Only ever had one partner who enjoyed me licking her but wouldn’t reciprocate.
The only time she tried was in the bath and she used teeth, I stopped her immediately.
Oral sex went on my list of requirements in a partner after her - I don’t mean forced, just as part of a mutually enjoyed activity.
Not a problem at all. I don’t take it, I’m a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and I’ve always had food and texture aversions. I tried to but my body had other ideas, and having a woman almost empty the entire contents of her gullet onto your lap in the wake of a blowjob is not how any man wants things to end 
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That makes perfect sense to me and likely a good decission. LOL. Thanks for sharing @Tenshadesandme
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Hmm, as a non-sensitive person, my first partner would always deposit on my tummy from her mouth (not from her “gullet”).
Since then my partners have always enjoyed and wanted to swallow. As posted by others above, some women just think it is disgusting/unhealthy but are happy to have oral performed on them.
You can always withdraw before you cum so your partner can see the results of her labour.
Not a problem at all, thankyou for understanding @be3169
When I talked about my “gullet”, I meant that my body had such a visceral reaction to the texture of cum that I threw up. Please don’t compare a HSP to a non-HSP, that’s like comparing a neurodivergent person to a neurotypical person. It’s uneducated at best.
Still, yes, not being able to swallow does not mean that I don’t enjoy the visuals.
When we first got together my OH gave me BJ’s I was very very lucky but this waned severely and now is never. She just doesn’t like my taste. (My diet is poor)
I love to go down on her but she is really self-conscious about everything including hygiene and she never lets me go down there either anymore.
So you threw up, that was a mental (I assume) reaction but the cum won’t have got any where near your gullet (unless you tried to swallow). I think I did mention in my earlier post the option to withdraw prior to coming.
I am certainly not educated about neurodivergent people (whoever they are) and don’t believe there is a neurotypical person on this planet.
Thought the tread was more about women who like to receive oral but don’t want to give.
I give my wife oral 9 times out 10, she really loves it, and so do I. She very rarely gives oral, if she does, it’s for a literal minute and she stops, she also does it in such a way that I can’t see her. She will have her back to me in bed so I can only see the back of her head.
I assume she is self conscious about it, so I’ve never made a big thing about wanting her to do it more etc.
There was one time recently where she did give me oral in a way I could see her, but she still covered up slightly with her hand in the way covering her mouth from my view. I can’t lie, it was one of the sexiest things in the world to me because I’ve wanted it for so long.
I told her afterwards how hot it was and how much I enjoyed it, but I get the feeling that by acknowledging it, I may have shot myself in the foot and now she’ll back track.
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The exact opposite in my house.
My lady is AMAZING at blow jobs - she gives me long, teasing, nerve shattering, leg spasming blow jobs. She will do slow licks around the frenulum, look me in the eye and has a huge amount of tricks up her sleeve.
The visual and the sensation are amazing. AND she always swallows (and I never asked her to once)
SADLY I really want to reciprocate but she just doesn’t particularly like it - I’ve given up a bit (last time I was down there was Xmas 2022 )
I just love having my face between her legs …
Think I need to do some new lobbying (after reading my own post!)
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Sadly, I am in exactly the same boat. She actually says “It puts her off and she loses the moment” if I try.
We have been together over ten years now and I can honestly count on one hand when I’ve been allowed to give her oral.
I wll add that my technique is not too shabby!
When you find the solution @our-adventure-bed , let me know!
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Hi @Latino_Caliente
Looks like we are in the same muff diving boat!
I was certain I was an expert at it too!!!
My missus is maybe too much of a control freak to just let go - or maybe I am rubbish at it! 
I’ll keep you posted 
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I love to receive oral and don’t mind giving it. I don’t like him to cum in my mouth as I have a wicked awful gag reflex. Also one of his ex partners was a sex worker and he stupidly told me she was great at bjs so I am super self conscious that I am not as good at it. I ask for tips and feedback but he never gives me any. One time I caught him watching tv while I was sucking him off and since then it’s a rare occasion that I will do it as I feel like he isn’t into it.
I wouldn’t say it’s disgusting, that’s a bit harsh. Just make sure he showers before-together is even better and maybe try a flavoured lube or condom if you don’t like the taste.
When we first got together she was more than happy to give me head but she was dead against receiving (never swallowing though, although has been known to happen on occasion ) eventually she let me go down on her and it’s been a regular thing since.
I love it when she rides my face but the she’s really against a 69, she hates it for some reason
If she is anything like me, she can only focus on one end or the other. Both at the same time distracts from each other.
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I have mentioned this elswhere, but my first wife loved receiving oral. Face sitting, gaping, rimming…she orgasmed every time (sadly she passed away some time ago) but I really wish I could “coax” Mrs LC into persevering.
I miss it so much 
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