Thanks @Iwill
Although there has been a few spectacular trips south of the border since I wrote that post!
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Wife and I could debate ad nauseum about who enjoys giving oral more. And likewise on the receiving.
My only real complaint is that I’ve become something of a “hard cum” from oral and so it’s a rare treat when she does get to swallow. Outside of intercourse I’m most apt to cum from a good titty-f*ck or by my own hand, which she really enjoys receiving on her chest, face, or in her mouth.
But we make great use of oral throughout our play together and nothing gets her riled up and in a submissive mood like licking and sucking me at length.
@our-adventure-bed … That is great to hear. Keep us posted on further trip south.
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Some people need certain things from relationships.
For me? I feel like I honestly couldn’t be in a monogamous relationship with someone who didn’t give semi-regular oral. It would be a genuine problem, and is something that I made sure we aligned on in my last handful of relationships.
‘What are your hobbies? Do you smoke? Do you drink? Do you enjoy sucking dick?’
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Having been with my now-wife for 21 years (starting when we were 18 and 19) and spending each of those years growing in our knowledge of each other and truly plumbing the depth and breadth of our sexuality together (deeper, and deeper, and deeper), I can’t imagine how I would even begin to start over at square one if something happened to my wife (and she’s said the same).
I do imagine that it would have to go something like you’re proposing before anything got too serious. There are plenty of folks out there who hold that “kinky” is a sexual orientation more than a set of preferences. I’m not sure I’m solid on that belief, but I do think it would have to be an early conversation. What’s your feeling on dirty talk? Bondage? Power play? Toys? Do you enjoy sucking dick? Do you enjoy having your pussy eaten? On the other hand, I think if I had to start over now in my 40s there’s a comfort and confidence that comes with maturity that I think would actually make those conversations not the worst thing to ever happen.
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If something is important to you then you honestly need to check compatibility, and do it before it’s too late. I, and I’m sure too many others, have learned the hard way.
The initial potentially awkward conversation is far easier than the potential issues that may come up after you’re in deep.
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Last year I told her that she had never cum in my face and I really liked the idea - and after all, I have cum in her face like a thousand times!
We were playing with a new toy, the LH Dream Rabbit - she was testing it out - and then she said, “why don’t you get a bit closer?”
We ended up with her using the rabbit while I kissed and licked her until she had the most wonderful orgasm.
Aaaah … happy happy joy joy xx
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@our-adventure-bed …woo hoo, way to go girl.
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We have an overnight booked on Saturday for Valentines. I might just suggest that idea…thanks for the inspiration.
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I can count the number of times on one hand I’ve had a BJ to completion but have brought her to orgasam thousands of times. Now she doesn’t even give me a quick suck. Her orgasm and straight to penetration and her manual assistance to multiple orgasms.
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My dream is to find a partner that just love receiving oral. I was in a relationship that she didn’t like receiving, I couldn’t be there anymore.
I really don’t mind receiving oral, but allow me to perform is a must!
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Mrs bustywife here I love mr giving me oral, he always makes sure I orgasm multiple times with his wonderful mouth and tongue. He makes it all about my pleasure. I think its only fair for me to pleasure him with my mouth and tongue after I’ve orgasmed a couple of times. I love the feel of his cock pulsating in my mouth when he cums
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I give hubby bj’s every time we have a session but use flavoured lube, he gives me oral but not every time and I have not had an orgasm with him through oral so although pleasurable I am not that fussed.
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My first wife would suck me off frequently, but, only because we were not having intercourse, and when I orgasmed, she would bolt for the loo and spit my load out like it was battery acid or poison. That was not acceptance, in any way, but at least it was something. Really, I’d rather her not let me cum in her mouth and at least be excited for me to cum and shoot it somewhere else. In both my subsequent relationships, my partners have let me finish and did swallow, surprisingly, and without fanfare. It made the experience so much better and loving. I have always gone down on all my lovers and gave them as many orgasms as they wanted, and usually before I had my own. Those who truly have an aversion to giving oral have my respect, it isn’t for everyone. But they should make sure they find some way to please their partner in a loving manner. Not as a payback but as a true gesture of acceptance.
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I never give to receive, I actually love giving bjs and am a fan of taking a cumshot in ,y my mouth or on my boobs or wherever .husband is always will to give oral too and his is amazing at it but to be honest sometimes I don’t need to receive it as part of our lovemaking .it all depends on my mood but when I does happen I do love it