trying handcuffs and blindfold for first time. any tips?
Have a safe word
Hi. Are you blindfolding or being blindfolded?
Take it slow. Start with the cuffs. Don’t cuff behind the back of standing (if you fall, your natural reaction will be to put your hands out, which you can’t do. Taking that away, from even if you are in no risk of falling can increase anxiety). Depending on the type of cuffs, if they are separate cuffs that you intend to join together or attach to something, just put the cuffs on to start and get used to the feel for a short while. Add blindfold when used to the feeling of being restrained/in a comfortable position.
Relax, be open minded and trust your partner. If you can’t then agreeing a safe word is essential.
her being cuffed. while we were having a dirty shag at d wkend she said she wishes she was tied up
her being cuffed. while we were having a dirty shag at d wkend she said she wishes she was tied up
Make sure your partner is in a comfortable position and feels safe. The feeling of being dominated in bondage relies alot on you taking care of her completely in terms of pleasure, safety and comfort. It’s likely this is as much about her enjoying the vulnerability as well as feeling real solid trust in you.
Make sure you prepare everything beforehand so you don’t have to leave the room for anything. Include any toys, drinks, pillows, towels, music, if you want to. The safety essentials are a must: A safe place to put keys to any locking cuffs, safety scissors for rope or straps. If you had an accident it’s good for her to know how to get out of the restraints to help you!
I’d recommend putting her cuffs on first, then the blindfold so she can see them going on before things go dark. This little ritual often builds anticipation. Then lay her down, and with her arms cuffed together, stretch them out and restrain them above her head somehow. This can be as simple as instructing her to keep them there, or tying them off to something. If she’s not going anywhere for a while, a pillow under her head’s often appreciated.
Alternatively, if you can space the cuffs apart by a hip’s width behind her backside with a piece of rope, spreader bar, or the like, she can lay down & have her arms restrained by her side without tying off to anything else. A pillow to lift her butt is and one under her head will make this comfier for her, and raise her booty a bit.
I’d recommend the under bed restraint kits if you want to progress to fully spread-eagled or similar bondage & don’t have easy access to bedposts or bedframe for tying to. You can use the leg restraints only or the arm restraints only, or both as you like.
Enjoy!
When me & now EX bf, tried bondage.
We initially went with elastic to attach individual cuffs to the bed. Keys where both of us could easily reach.
The elastic & cuffs gives the feeling of being restrained, but also allows movement to get the keys, if anything were to happen.
Deve&Debe wrote:
Have a safe word
Or, if gagged, a safe action. Grip coins in your hand and drop them into the floor or hold a bell.
However, when you are in the throes of pleasure either of the above can cause your OH to stop what she/he is doing because coins are bouncing around the floor or bells are ringing and ruin the moment.
Figure it out.